Let’s start with a sobering reality check: although dating a married man can seem like an exhilarating roller coaster ride, those tracks frequently end in an emotional crash. What begins as a seductive diversion could turn into you and your spouse juggling a difficult divorce and grieving family. And should he decide to divorce his wife, you may have to deal with a future tainted with resentment and mistrust due to previous upheaval. We promise that the heartache won’t be worth it.
1. You are not going to be the top priority.
First things first: you will never be a married man’s first priority if he has a wife and children. Even while he might try to convince you that he no longer loves his wife, his kids will always come first, especially if they’re small. His family obligations will always be a cloud over your affair, keeping him away when you most need him.
2. He Won’t Ever See Your Friends and Family
Consider this: how frequently can you take him to see your loved ones? There are very few intimate get-togethers where your significant someone eventually meets the people in your inner circle. There will always be secret meetings and skulking around, depriving you of the happiness that comes from discussing your connection with others.
3. It’s Unlikely That He Will Divorce His Wife
Admittedly, there aren’t many married men who genuinely leave their wives for their extramarital companions. The hard truth? Most likely, you’re not the only one. Children involved in a divorce create a huge mess, thus their emotional health will always come first. Thus, you might be left hanging forever.
4. You Might Face Penalties for Dismantling a Family
Prepare for a storm if the wife discovers. Imagine if their marriage failed, and guess who might be held accountable? You can become known as the “homewrecker,” which would be detrimental to your feeling of value and self-esteem. It’s a big emotional weight to bear.
5. You Will Have to Wait a Long Time
Consider this: even if he swears to divorce his wife, are you really going to stay and watch to see if he keeps his word? Is your time truly worth spending with this morally dubious individual when there are seven billion people on the planet? What prevents him from betraying you in the future if he can cheat on his wife?
6. You’re Not Getting the Chance to Meet a Single Man
Rather from wishing that one day he will pick you over his wife, put your efforts into finding a compatible partner. Your chances of discovering genuine, unconditional love with someone who isn’t already in a committed relationship are reduced if you start acting like “the other woman.”
7. He Doesn’t Offer You Support When You Need It
Having a support system in a committed relationship is a wonderful thing, especially when times are hard. But a married man involved in an extramarital affair is taking on too much responsibility. He must split his attention between you, his wife, and his children, therefore he is unable to provide you with complete emotional support. Be ready for inconsistent support and occasional appearances.
8. You Have a Short Term
We hate to break the news to you, but if you’re accused of “having an affair,” this relationship probably won’t last long. Paradoxically, he is less likely to leave his wife the longer the affair continues. It turns into a vicious circle of broken promises and postponement.
9. Hiding Is Tiresome
It stinks to live in the shadows. Your self-esteem will suffer and you will be deprived of the opportunity to freely and blissfully experience love if you keep your relationship hidden. Envision the uncomplicated liberty of clasping hands in public or dining together without the apprehension of being discovered. It’s freeing.
So, carefully consider these points before starting or continuing an affair with a married man. Think about your emotional health and your future. You should have someone who can give you their whole attention, free from tangled relationships and ulterior motives.
Stay amazing and make smart decisions!
Science Shows That Women Sleep Better Next To Dogs Than Men
It’s a no-brainer that sleep is vital for one’s health. That is why so many researchers study the best way to get good quality shut-eye. However, forget chamomile tea and meditating before bed. According to new research, women sleep better next to dogs. That’s right; Canisius College in New York State conducted a study that found that canines make better-sleeping partners than humans or cats.
“We found that women commonly rate dogs as better bed partners than cats and human partners and report that their dogs enhance their sleep quality,” Christy Hoffman, Ph.D., animal behaviorist and lead researcher of the study.
Research Finds that Women Sleep Better Next to Dogs
Hoffman surveyed almost one thousand women living in the United States to come to these findings. The results showed that 55% of the participants shared their bed with at least one dog and 31% with at least one cat. Also, 57% of these women shared a bed with a human partner, while the rest did not. [1]
Hoffman also discovered why dogs seemed to make the best bed companions. The first reason is that dogs’ sleeping patterns, as opposed to cats, more closely resemble those of humans.
“The difference between dogs and cats is not surprising because dogs’ major sleep periods tend to coincide more closely with humans’ than do cats,’” said Hoffman.
However, while there may be benefits of these similar sleeping patterns, more research is needed to know for certain. But Hoffman has some ideas of how this could work.
“In comparison to human bed partners, dogs may be better at accommodating their human’s sleep schedule,” she said. “It’s not uncommon for human bed partners to go to bed at very different times and wake up at very different times. Such differences in partners’ schedules can certainly disrupt sleep. It may be that dog bed partners adapt more readily to their owner’s schedule than do human bed partners.”
Moreover, dogs require certain schedules and responsibilities, such as a morning walk. This kind of regime helps their owners maintain a routine, improving sleep quality as a result.
Stillness and Security
Additionally, dogs tend to stay stiff as they sleep. Anyone who’s slept with a fidgety partner knows how disruptive they could be. However, women in the study reported that their dogs stayed on the bed most of the night instead of felines, who tended to come and go.
“This suggests that cats may be more likely than dogs to create disruptions by moving on and off the bed during the night. In addition, we found that dog owners kept to more consistent bedtime and wake time schedules than cat owners and also tended to go to bed earlier and wake up earlier than cat owners,” Hoffman said.
Here’s the third and most important reason: Canines provide a sense of security to their owners. More so than with cats or even human partners.
“Some dog owners may take comfort in the thought that their dog will alert them in the case of an intruder or other type of emergency; furthermore, a dog’s bark may deter a potential intruder. A cat is less likely to take on this role, and so, may not provide psychological comfort in the same way a dog might,” said Hoffman.
The Best Partner for Quality Sleep
However, while the study suggests that dogs are the perfect slumber buddies, their benefits are subjective to each case. For example, a dog could snore or make the bed too hot. Additionally, there are many owners who find that their cats help them sleep.
Keep in mind that the research was based on how the volunteers perceive their pets’ effects on their sleeping quality and duration. As a result, more objective research is needed to definitively consider dogs the superior sleeping partners. However, Hoffman believes that these studies could be beneficial as many American households have pets.
“It will be valuable to continue this line of research so we can develop a clearer picture of the contexts under which pets and their presence in their owner’s bed may positively impact sleep quality, and the contexts under which co-sleeping with a pet may be detrimental to one’s sleep quality,” she said.
For instance, research has also shown that women sleep better while alone than with a human, but many believe in the opposite. Future research could use Fitbit-like devices to objectively track the sleep quality of people in different sleeping conditions.
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