When we share our lives online, we often face criticism. This young couple, who love sharing pictures of each other, received negative comments about their relationship.
However, their response to the criticism is smart and reminds us how important it is to stand by our beliefs.
The story of Matt and Brittany Montgomery is a familiar but beautiful one. The couple met, fell in love, and began their life together.
While this may seem like a typical situation, the couple’s story has a unique twist: their size difference. Brittany has struggled to find acceptance throughout her life. She didn’t have a secure relationship with her parents, who were often controlling, and their interactions left her feeling drained.
These experiences led her to have low confidence in herself and her body. As a plus-sized woman, Brittany often found herself attracting two types of men: those who wanted her to lose weight or those who fetishized her curves. These negative experiences made her want to stop dating altogether and shut herself off from the chance of finding love.
While they fully accept each other, they’ve experienced judgment from the outside world. Matt mentioned, “People comment on Instagram and suggest that I’m not big enough or man enough for her.” He also said, “I notice people staring at us when we walk down the street…”
Despite the criticism they face from those who don’t understand their strong bond, the couple shares nothing but love for one another.
Matt has had bad experiences with conventionally sized women in the past. However, Brittany makes him feel different and has helped him realize that she is his true soulmate. He accepts her as she is and focuses on making her happy. He isn’t shy about publicly expressing his love for her. In a post dedicated to Brittany, he wrote, “You are worthy, you are deserving of infinite love every single day and more. The way I look at you and feel for you, and the way you look and feel for me, is how I know that we are meant to be.”
His message shows that despite the rude comments they receive on their pictures, he loves his wife, and their connection goes far beyond the physical. What a strong response to the haters!
The couple aims to break the stigma surrounding “mixed-weight” relationships. Brittany expressed, “I wish mixed-weight relationships were more common and accepted as the norm.”
The young couple welcomed their child, Lakelyn, in March 2022, and just last month, they announced they are expecting their second child in September 2023. We wish them all the best!
‘Families don’t have to look the same’ – Black couple talks about their experience adopting three white children
Sadie and Jarvis Sampson tried for years to have a baby, using every method they could think of. They eventually accepted that they might only ever be an aunt and uncle. Then, one day, they got a text that changed their lives completely.
The couple had been trying to get pregnant since they got married in January 2018, but when it didn’t happen on its own, they tried everything else.
“We used ovulation tests, took prenatal vitamins, tracked cycles with apps, and used fertility monitors,” the Houston mom told Love What Matters.
“We even tried advice from friends, family, and strangers. For 14 months, we tried, prayed, and waited. Month after month, it was always a negative pregnancy test. It seemed like we might need help to conceive, so we even talked to doctors about it.”
Doctors didn’t offer much help to the couple. They mostly told Sadie to lose weight to improve her chances of getting pregnant. With no other advice, she had gastric surgery and lost 28 pounds.
Sadie’s OBGYN was excited about the weight loss and praised her for it.
“She told me that if I wasn’t pregnant within six months, she would refer me to a fertility specialist because she couldn’t prescribe fertility medication herself,” Sadie said. “I was thrilled! We finally got a positive step forward, even if it wasn’t immediate. We were excited about the progress.”
Unfortunately, the couple didn’t get pregnant after Sadie lost the weight, and they felt like they were back where they started.
“I always felt like I was meant to be a mother,” Sadie said. “Even though my surgeon warned me that I’d be very fertile after the surgery, I still wasn’t getting pregnant. So, we gave up and accepted that we might just be aunt and uncle to our nieces and godparents to our goddaughters.”
Just when the couple had decided to stop trying to have a baby, Sadie got a text from a friend asking if they would think about fostering a baby from a couple she knew.
At first, the couple was hesitant because they were told by a caseworker to take care of the baby while the birth mom was getting treatment. They worried they might get too attached. But then, the situation changed.
“The birth mom has decided she wants you to adopt the baby instead,” the caseworker said.
Sadie remembered saying, “‘Holy crap!!’ out loud when she found out she was going to be a mom.
“We went from having no kids to possibly fostering one, to suddenly being told, ‘You’re going to be parents!’ I was still in shock as I listened to the caseworker. I hung up and called my husband, shouting, ‘Babe!! They want us to adopt the baby! We’re going to be parents!’ He said, ‘Wait! REALLY?! I thought they just wanted us to foster him!’ I told him, ‘Nope! They want us to be his mom and dad.’”
The couple spent the weekend trying to take in the shocking news and getting ready, just in case the birth mom changed her mind.
By Monday, they were not only told that the birth mom still wanted them to adopt the baby, but she also wanted to do an independent adoption and was ready to sign the papers that day.
Their baby boy was born at just 33 weeks, which is seven weeks early. He weighed 4 lbs. 5 oz. “He was so tiny, he literally fit in one of my husband’s hands,” Sadie wrote.
“He was wrapped in a white blanket with pink and blue stripes,” Sadie said. “He had a small tube coming out of his nose because he couldn’t eat on his own since he was born early. But he was so cute!!!”
The couple shared their news on social media and were encouraged to create a registry. They listed 72 items, and within just three days, 55 of them were already bought for them.
Ezra Lee’s adoption was finalized in October 2020, and the couple had adorable family photos taken, all wearing t-shirts that said, “Families don’t have to match.”
In 2021, Sadie and Jarvis became parents to twin girls, Journee and Destinee, through embryo donation. True to their family motto, “Families don’t have to match,” the Black couple now has three white children – a boy and two girls.
For anyone who might judge their beautiful family, they have just one response: their family is built on the strongest foundation ever – love.
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