Our Granddaughter Called Us Stingy Because of Her Wedding Gift from Us

This time, we sent an air fryer to our youngest granddaughter, the cheapest thing on her registry. Eloise called us, livid, accusing us of being cheap. I remember picking up her call and she didn’t even say hi, she just started ranting, “Seriously, Grandma? I just got your gift. An air fryer? That’s the cheapest thing you could find on my registry!”

I was taken aback because as much as the air fryer was the cheapest on their registry, I still thought it’d be useful to them, so I told her that. Eloise kept on complaining, “Useful? Come on, you know you can do better than that. Everyone knows you have the money. I just can’t believe you’d be this cheap with me. It’s embarrassing.”

In this heated moment, I told her, “Yes, you’re right. We are cheap, old, and useless. The only thing you DIDN’T know is that the day before the wedding, we were going to gift you a check for $40,000.”

I revealed this in an attempt to explain to Eloise about the cash gift we usually give our grandkids before the wedding but she was so angry at this point, that she wasn’t listening to a thing I said. I speculated that maybe she didn’t believe we would gift her such an amount of money after only buying her an air fryer.

Eventually, she said, “No, it’s clear. You just don’t love me enough to show it. You know how much pressure I’m under with the wedding. And then, this? It’s like you don’t even care,” then she hung up.

Despite my husband and I’s shock at Eloise’s reaction, we then bought her a China set, hoping to appease her, but decided against giving her the $40,000, feeling she hadn’t earned it.

Fast forward to last week. Eloise talked to her brother and found out that we were telling her the truth about the money. After confirming it with her cousins, she, called again, accusing us of discrimination, “I just found out that it’s true you gave the money to everyone else when they got married. Why didn’t I get anything?”

We stood firm, explaining our stance was due to her initial reaction, “We felt after your reaction to the wedding gift, it wasn’t right to go ahead and gift you the money.” Eloise pleaded trying to convince us otherwise, “So, you’re punishing me? Is that it? Because I was upset about an air fryer?”

I was angry that she didn’t even understand what she did wrong. “It wasn’t about the air fryer, Eloise. It was how you spoke to us, the disrespect. That’s not something we expected or can support,” I explained.

Eloise implored us, nearly in tears, “But that’s so unfair! I was stressed, Grandma. Planning a wedding is hard, and I just snapped. I didn’t mean any of it.” I felt like she should have only apologized to us instead of finding excuses to justify her behavior.

However, I told her, “We understand that it’s a stressful time, but actions and words have consequences. We hoped you’d understand the value of family and love over material things.” Full of desperation, Eloise added, “But you don’t understand! Can’t we just forget all this happened? I need that money, Grandma.”

She pleaded, threatened to boycott Christmas, and accused us of cutting her off but we didn’t budge. In the end, I expressed, “We love you very much. This has nothing to do with cutting you off. We just hope you’ll reflect on this and understand why we made our decision.”

Now, Eloise has followed up on her threat and she’s boycotting Christmas. Her mother, who is our daughter-in-law, is siding with her, calling us unreasonable. However, we feel that after all we have done for Eloise, the air fryer gift, shouldn’t have triggered this reaction.

For context, we had already paid for her college, and her parents covered her graduate school and half the wedding. Additionally, she and her husband are financially comfortable and do not desperately need our money.

We’re also not upset with our grandkids for revealing the cash gift since she is among the group of family members who are allowed to know about it. Our reason for sending the air fryer earlier was that we live far away, so we always send our gifts early.

The wedding gift is also separate from the money, which we give with the hope it will be used for something significant, like a home. Now, we feel like the action we took towards Eloise was well deserved and we are not going back on our decisions even if she and her mom threaten to do their worst.

Despite the tumultuous events and Eloise’s refusal to understand our perspective, my husband and I stand by our decision. Love and respect in our family are paramount, and we hoped this situation would be a learning experience for her.

The holidays might be quieter this year with her family’s absence, but our hope is for healing and understanding in the future. Our door and hearts remain open to Eloise, whenever she’s ready to mend fences.

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The Vintage Sandwich Toaster: A Beloved Culinary Tool for Outdoor Adventures

The retro sandwich toaster, also known as a pie iron or jaffle iron, has a long and illustrious history that dates back to the early 1900s. Originally intended for camping, these useful cast iron gadgets were first invented in the 1920s and 1930s in both Australia and the United States. They made it possible for users to cook hot, sealed sandwiches over a flame. With the introduction of electric sandwich toasters during the middle of the 20th century, toasting sandwiches became more convenient indoors.

A vintage sandwich toaster’s main purpose is to press and toast bread with different fillings to create excellent, hot, sealed sandwiches. It is really easy to use: Spread butter on one side of the toaster, top with your preferred filling (cheese, ham, or even fruit), and then top with another buttered slice of bread. Put the toaster in the oven or plug in the electric one, close it, clamp it shut, and cook over a heat source.

These cast iron pie irons are incredibly adaptable for outdoor cooking because they can be used directly in the fire or on a camp stove when camping. Electric variants were popular and introduced the same adaptability and convenience into our homes. They quickly became the preferred appliance for preparing quick and simple meals, especially for families with active schedules.

An iconic position in culinary history has been carved out for the antique sandwich toaster. It represents a period in kitchen technology history when the focus shifted to efficiency and convenience, particularly in the post-war era when families required faster meal options. The sandwich toaster rapidly came to represent contemporary home life.

Due to its robustness and endearing retro appeal, vintage models are sought for by several collectors and nostalgia enthusiasts. Many people associate these appliances with happy childhood memories of straightforward but filling home-cooked meals.

Even in modern times, the classic sandwich toaster holds significance. Though the core idea remains the same, modern models have received changes with sleeker shapes and non-stick coatings. The emerging vogue for retro and vintage cookware has given these classic appliances newfound appeal.

A welcome return to home-cooked, straightforward meals is provided by the sandwich toaster, especially in a society where convenience foods are frequently highly processed and low in nutrients. It encourages experimenting with various flavors and ingredients, which ignites creativity in the kitchen. It also connects us to the culinary customs of bygone eras, giving us a reassuring sense of nostalgia.

In conclusion, the vintage sandwich toaster represents the development of home cooking and is much more than just a kitchen tool. It has always been a prized tool for preparing easy and delicious meals, from its origins in the outdoor camping scene to its evolution into a treasured household item. The sandwich toaster’s spirit endures because of its timeless appeal in both traditional and contemporary versions, as well as the growing interest in retro kitchenware. This straightforward gadget remains a representation of culinary ease and inventiveness, regardless of whether you’re preparing a traditional cheese toastie or experimenting with a novel and creative dish.

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