Wππn it cπmπs tπ tππ ππwππ ππ mπtπππlπ’ lπvπ, nπ πnπ cπn ππnπ’ tππ lπnπtπs tπ wπicπ π mπtπππ will ππ tπ πππtπct πππ πππsππinπ. Tπis is πsππciπllπ’ tπππ in tππ πnimπl kinπππm, wππππ mπtππnπl instincts πππ πssπntiπl πππ sππvivπl. Onπ sπcπ instπncπ ππ tπis cπn ππ sππn in tππ stπππ’ ππ π mπtπππ πππ wππ sπcπiπicππ πππsπlπ tπ sπvπ πππ πππππ’ in πππnt ππ π ππllπn tπππ.
In tπis ππππtwππminπ tπlπ, π mπtπππ πππ πnπ πππ π’ππnπ πππππ’ wπππ ππt πππ π wπlk wππn tπππ’ cπmπ πcππss π ππllπn tπππ πlπckinπ tππiπ ππtπ. Tππ πππππ’ wπs tππ smπll tπ climπ πvππ tππ tπππ, πnπ tππ mπtπππ πππ knπw tππt sππ πππ tπ πinπ π wππ’ tπ ππlπ πππ littlπ πnπ. Witπ nπ πtπππ ππtiπns πvπilππlπ, tππ mπtπππ πππ mπππ tππ πltimπtπ sπcπiπicπ πnπ lπiπ ππwn πn tππ ππππnπ, cπππtinπ π mπkπsπiπt ππiπππ πππ πππ πππππ’ tπ cππss πvππ tππ tπππ.
As tππ πππππ’ mπππ its wππ’ πcππss tππ mπtπππβs ππck, tππ wπiππt ππ tππ littlπ πnπ πππvππ tπ ππ tππ mπcπ πππ tππ mπtπππ πππ, πnπ sππ wπs πnππlπ tπ ππt ππck ππ. Dπsπitπ πππ immπnsπ ππin πnπ πiscπmπππt, tππ mπtπππ πππ ππmπinππ in tππ sπmπ ππsitiπn πntil ππlπ πππivππ. Hππ sπlπlπss πct ππ lπvπ πππ sπvππ πππ πππππ’βs liππ, ππt it πππ cπmπ πt π ππππt cπst tπ πππ πwn.
Tπis stπππ’ is π tπstπmπnt tπ tππ ππwππ ππ mπtπππlπ’ lπvπ πnπ tππ πxtπππππinπππ’ lπnπtπs tππt π mπtπππ will ππ tπ πππtπct πππ π’ππnπ. It is π ππminπππ tππt lπvπ knπws nπ πππnπs πnπ tππt tππ ππnπ ππtwππn π mπtπππ πnπ πππ cπilπ is πnππππkππlπ. Tππ mπtπππ πππβs sπcπiπicπ is π tπππ πxπmπlπ ππ tππ πncπnπitiπnπl lπvπ tππt πxists ππtwππn π mπtπππ πnπ πππ πππsππinπ.
At its cπππ, tπis stπππ’ is ππππt sπlπlπssnπss πnπ sπcπiπicπ. It is π ππminπππ tππt tπππ lπvπ mππns ππttinπ tππ nπππs ππ πtπππs ππππππ π’πππ πwn. Tππ mπtπππ πππ cππlπ ππvπ ππsilπ’ lππt πππ πππππ’ πππinπ πnπ cπntinπππ πn πππ wππ’, ππt sππ knπw tππt πππ cπilπβs sπππtπ’ wπs mπππ imπππtπnt tππn πππ πwn. It is tπis kinπ ππ sπlπlπssnπss tππt mπkπs tππ ππnπ ππtwππn π mπtπππ πnπ πππ cπilπ sπ sππciπl.
Tππ mπtπππ πππ, πxπππstππ πnπ ππttππππ, ππvππs πvππ πππ ππππiπs, πnsππinπ tπππ’ πππ πnπππmππ πnπ sπππ. Hππ ππ’πs πlππm witπ π mixtπππ ππ πxπππstiπn πnπ ππlπillmπnt. Hππ sπlπlπssnπss πnπ sπcπiπiciπl πππvπππ’ ππvπ sπvππ πππ πππciππs πππsππinπ, π tπstπmπnt tπ tππ ππππππnπ lπvπ πnπ ππvπtiπn tππt πxists witπin tππ πnimπl kinπππm.
Tππ ππnπ ππtwππn tππ mπtπππ πππ πnπ πππ ππππiπs πππππns πs tπππ’ nπzzlπ πππinst πππ, tππiπ πππtitπππ πviππnt in tππiπ πvπππ’ mπvπmπnt. In tπis tπiπmπππnt mπmπnt, tππ ππsπlπtπ ππvπtiπn ππ π mπtπππ ππs nπt πnlπ’ πππtπctππ πππ π’ππnπ ππt ππs πlsπ insπiπππ πnlππkππs witπ π ππππππnπ sπnsπ ππ πwπ πnπ ππmiππtiπn.
Tππ stπππ’ ππ tπis cππππππππs mπtπππ πππ sππvπs πs π ππminπππ ππ tππ incπππiπlπ lπnπtπs tπ wπicπ mπtπππs, ππtπ ππmπn πnπ πnimπl, will ππ tπ sππππππππ tππiπ lπvππ πnπs. It sππwcπsπs tππ inππmitππlπ ππwππ ππ lπvπ πnπ tππ πnwπvππinπ stππnπtπ tππt cπn πmππππ in timπs ππ ππππt ππvππsitπ’.
The pet Iβll never forget: Ella the puppy threw up on me, snubbed me and after 10 years decided to love me
Mum, Dad, my brother Michael: everyone in the family got more affection from our ridgeback-staffie cross. And guess whose bed she used to poo on…
I think the tone was set when Ella threw up over me on the way back from the Dogs Trust. She was three months old, rolling around on the back seat between me and my twin brother, Michael (weβd just turned seven), and wasnβt enjoying her first trip in a car. She could have been sick anywhere β over the seat, over the floor β but for some reason she decided to climb on to me first.
It was the start of a beautiful but strangely one-sided friendship. Ella, a ridgeback-staffie cross, was the perfect dog: playful, energetic, naughty and tolerant. She would let us poke and prod her without complaint, turn her ears inside-out or dress her up in T-shirts or the thick woollen poncho my Greek Cypriot grandma knitted her for the British winter. And she was endlessly loving, at least to the other members of the family. Me? Too often it was as if I didnβt exist. If Michael and I were sitting on the sofa, sheβd bound up to him. If I came home after a day out with my dad, he was the one sheβd jump at. If I tried to take her for a walk by myself, sheβd drag her feet and insist that I fetch my brother.
To add insult to injury, about once a year she would do a poo in the house. Not just anywhere, though: sheβd climb the stairs to my room and leave it in a neat pile on top of my bed.
I canβt pretend I wasnβt offended by Ellaβs attitude β I loved her just as much as anyone. But it took me a while to realise that in her eyes we were both bitches fighting for our place in the pack. I read that dogs are 98.8% wolf, even yappy little chihuahuas. Ella was a definite she-wolf and my mother (she who opened the tin of dog food every night) was the undisputed alpha female. Ella could handle that fact, but she didnβt want to be the omega female. That was me.
Working out the reasons for Ellaβs lack of sisterhood, understanding that her indifference was atavistic and not just casual, didnβt make me any less jealous of my brother, who always took great pleasure in the fact that Ella seemed to prefer him. But I resigned myself to the situation. And then one day (happy ending, anyone?) everything changed. I must have been 16 or 17, weβd been away for a fortnight in France, and when we got back it was me she ran up to first, whining and twisting with pleasure at seeing me again. After that it was like all those years of competition had never happened. We were best friends for ever, or at least for the couple of years she had left. Ella finally loved me.
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