Ever noticed how a guy’s appearance seems to completely change once he starts dating? One day, he’s carefree, rocking an untamed beard and a messy hairstyle, and the next, he’s clean-shaven, well-groomed, and looking way too polished.
Why does this transformation happen? Well, the answer is simple—when single, most guys don’t care much about their looks, but when they enter a relationship, suddenly, self-care becomes a priority. Let’s dive into this hilarious shift and break down the ways boys change when they go from single life to dating mode.
1. The Single Life: Carefree and Rugged
Before a guy enters a relationship, personal grooming is often at the bottom of his priority list. When he’s single, there’s no pressure to impress anyone, so he lets his natural state take over.
What Happens When a Guy is Single?
- The Beard Takes Over – Many guys skip shaving for weeks, growing anything from a light stubble to a full-blown caveman beard.
- Messy Hair, Don’t Care – Haircuts? Those are optional. A single guy might go months without trimming his hair, leading to that “I just woke up” look becoming his everyday style.
- Basic Fashion Choices – A single guy’s wardrobe consists of wrinkled t-shirts, faded jeans, and that one hoodie he’s had since high school.
- Skincare? What’s That? – Forget fancy grooming routines. The most skincare a single guy does is splashing water on his face in the morning.
- Minimal Effort in Smelling Good – Deodorant? Sometimes. Cologne? Only for special occasions (which rarely happen).
In short, single guys live life on easy mode, with no pressure to constantly look their best.
2. The Dating Phase: Grooming Overload Begins
Once a guy starts dating, everything changes overnight. Suddenly, self-care becomes a priority, and he transforms into a well-groomed gentleman.
How a Guy Changes When He Starts Dating
- The Beard Disappears – The first thing to go? The rugged, wild beard. He’ll either go for a clean-shaven look or neatly trimmed stubble to impress his girlfriend.
- Haircuts Become a Monthly Ritual – Gone are the days of letting hair grow uncontrollably. Now, he visits the barber regularly to keep his hairstyle fresh.
- Wardrobe Upgrade – His old, baggy t-shirts are replaced with well-fitted shirts, stylish jackets, and trendy sneakers. He suddenly knows what “fashion sense” means.
- Skincare Becomes a Thing – Now, he owns face wash, moisturizer, and maybe even exfoliating scrubs—all because his girlfriend recommended them.
- Cologne and Grooming Essentials – He starts investing in good cologne, deodorants, and even fancy beard oils to keep things fresh.
3. The Psychological Shift – Why Do Boys Change When They Start Dating?
So, why do guys suddenly care so much about their appearance when they start dating? It’s not just about impressing their partner—it’s also about self-confidence and making a good impression.
Why This Transformation Happens:
- First Impressions Matter – In the early stages of dating, guys want to look their best to keep their partner interested and attracted.
- A Girlfriend’s Influence – Let’s be honest—most guys won’t upgrade their grooming routine unless someone encourages them. Girlfriends often introduce better skincare, stylish clothing, and overall self-care tips.
- Boost in Confidence – Looking better makes a guy feel better. When he sees the positive reactions from his partner, he’s more motivated to keep up the effort.
- Fear of Being “That Guy” – Nobody wants to be the scruffy, unkempt boyfriend who looks like he just rolled out of bed. Guys realize that maintaining good grooming habits keeps the relationship fresh and attractive.
4. The Funny Reality – Before vs. After Dating
Let’s compare a guy’s lifestyle before and after he enters a relationship.
| Category | Single Life | Dating Life |
|---|---|---|
| Beard & Hair | Wild, unkempt | Trimmed, stylish |
| Fashion Sense | Basic and lazy | Thoughtful and trendy |
| Skincare Routine | Nonexistent | Uses at least 3 products |
| Cologne & Fragrance | Rarely used | Always smells fresh |
| Gym Routine | “I’ll start next month” | Works out regularly |
| Selfies & Photos | Avoids them | Takes cute couple pictures |
5. When the Relationship Matures – Will He Go Back to Old Habits?
At the beginning of a relationship, effort levels are at their peak. But what happens after months (or years) of dating?
Three Possible Scenarios:
- He Keeps Up the Grooming Routine – Some guys embrace their new self-care habits and continue maintaining their well-groomed look.
- He Relaxes but Stays Presentable – After a while, he might loosen up but still put in effort for special occasions.
- Back to Single Mode – Once he’s comfortable, he stops trying altogether—and the beard, messy hair, and lazy outfits return.
Most long-term relationships find a balance, where a guy maintains some level of effort without going overboard.
6. The Takeaway – Effort Is Key, But Comfort Matters Too
There’s nothing wrong with guys taking a relaxed approach when they’re single. And there’s nothing wrong with stepping up their grooming game when dating. But the key is balance—it’s important to look good and feel good, whether single or in a relationship.
At the end of the day, whether a guy is single or taken, confidence and personality matter most. But let’s be honest—keeping a well-groomed appearance never hurts!
Mary Lou Retton Has Pneumonia and ‘Is Fighting for Her Life,’ Daughter Says
The gymnastics champion sprang to stardom at the 1984 Olympics, where she became the first American woman to win a gold medal in the all-around competition. Her family is raising money online, saying she lacks health insurance.
May Lou Retton at the 1984 Olympics, where she won five medals.
Mary Lou Retton, who became one of the most popular athletes in the country after winning the all-around women’s gymnastics competition at the 1984 Summer Olympics in Los Angeles, has pneumonia and is “fighting for her life” in the intensive care unit, her daughter said in a statement this week.
Retton’s daughter McKenna Lane Kelley said on Instagram that her mother “is not able to breathe on her own” and that she had been in the intensive care unit for more than a week.
Kelley asked for donations to help pay for her mother’s hospital bills, saying her mother lacked health insurance. By Wednesday, she had raised more than $260,000 online from more than 4,600 donors.
She did not share more specific information about her mother’s condition, though she said that her pneumonia was “a very rare form.” It was not clear what hospital Retton was in.
Kelley, who was a gymnast at Louisiana State University, did not immediately respond to a message seeking comment on Tuesday.
On Wednesday, another daughter, Shayla Kelley Schrepfer, released a video on Instagram thanking people for “all the love and support that you’ve given to my mom.”
“She’s still fighting,” Schrepfer said. “It’s going to be a day-by-day process, and we hope that you guys will respect her boundaries, as we want to keep the details between her and our family right now. She has been treated with the best of the best professionals here, and it has been such a blessing to have their hands on her.”
At the 1984 Olympics, Retton became the first American woman to win the all-around gold medal or any individual Olympic medal in gymnastics. Going into the final rotation of the competition, she was five-hundredths of a point behind Romania’s Ecaterina Szabo, and the only way she could beat Szabo was to score a perfect 10 on vault.
Retton scored a perfect 10.
She won five medals in Los Angeles, including two silvers, for team and vault, and two bronzes, for uneven bars and floor exercise.
Though there was an asterisk by Retton’s victory in the history books — the Soviet Union, which was the most dominant force in women’s gymnastics at the time, boycotted the 1984 Games — it nonetheless made her a sports hero in the United States. In addition to earning her the traditional trappings of Olympic gold, like appearing on a Wheaties box, she was widely viewed as an inspiration to a new generation of American girls entering gymnastics.
Even as the American gymnastics program grew and the country won more medals, including the team gold in 1996, Retton’s prominence remained: For 20 years, Retton, now 55, was the only American woman to win the all-around title, until Carly Patterson became the second in 2004.
Retton was born in Fairmont, W.Va., and got her start early, like many top gymnasts. By the time Retton was 7 years old, she was training in gymnastics full-time.
Retton’s talent had been apparent from the start, but a big break came at an Olympics elimination tournament in Reno, Nev., in 1982, where she impressed Bela Karolyi, who would go on to coach her in the 1984 Olympics.
“I immediately recognized the tremendous physical potential of this little kid,” Karolyi said in a March 1984 interview.
Retton appeared in a number of films and TV shows in the late 1980s and 1990s, including the comedy film “Scrooged.”
After her athletic career, Retton became a motivational speaker to promote the benefits of proper nutrition and regular exercise.
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