In a groundbreaking moment 16 years ago, Thomas Beatie etched his name in history as the world’s first man to undergo pregnancy.
Born female, Thomas underwent a gender transition, now identifying as a transgender man. The global spotlight shone on him when news broke of his remarkable journey to parenthood with the birth of his first daughter, Susan
In a surprising turn of events in 2006, he halted his testosterone treatment with the aspiration of conceiving. Facing fertility challenges with his then-wife Nancy, Thomas made the courageous decision to carry the child himself.
The iconic image of Thomas Beatie sporting a heavily pregnant belly first circulated in 2008, creating ripples across the world. Media dubbed Beatie “the pregnant man” and news of his story quickly spread worldwide.
Yet, the journey was far from smooth, with hate emails and death threats pouring in from numerous quarters, including established media outlets.
”Doctors have discriminated against us, turning us away due to their religious beliefs. Health care professionals have refused to call me by a male pronoun or recognize Nancy as my wife. Receptionists have laughed at us. Friends and family have been unsupportive; most of Nancy’s family doesn’t even know I’m transgender,” Thomas later said.
During an extensive 48-hour labor, Susan, the first child of Thomas and Nancy, was born into the world healthy and happy. Thomas, determined to opt for a natural birth, defied expectations. His case marked the first documented instance where a legally recognized male gave birth within a marital union with a woman.
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Over the course of five years without testosterone, Thomas experienced four more pregnancies (one of which resulted in an ectopic pregnancy). Together with his first wife, Nancy, he raised Susan and sons Austin and Jensen, presenting themselves as a traditional family with strong values.
In a significant television debut, Thomas Beatie took center stage with an exclusive hour-long interview on the Oprah Winfrey Show in April 2008. Addressing a global audience, he openly discussed his belief in the reproductive right to bear a child, irrespective of his male gender identity.
During the interview, Beatie emphasized: “It’s not a male or female desire to want to have a child; it’s a human desire. I’m a person, and I have the right to have my own biological child.”
His words echoed a powerful assertion of his personal autonomy and challenged conventional perceptions surrounding gender and parenthood.
In 2016, Thomas entered a new chapter, marrying a new partner, Amber. Despite having known each other since 2012, a tumultuous divorce with Nancy delayed Thomas and Amber’s nuptials.
The couple moved to Oregon with their blended family, consisting of Susan, Austin, Jensen, and Amber’s grandchild Lily.
Reflecting on their bustling household, Thomas shared: “It can get pretty loud with four kids aged 3, 5, 6, and 7, but we love it,” in an interview with Daily Mail.
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Quel rôle est plus convaincant: flic ou maçon? ??? Which look is more convincing?
Posted by Thomas Trace Beatie on Sunday, March 10, 2019
Sixteen years have elapsed since Thomas became a public figure, yet he continues to make occasional appearances on social media and in people’s feeds.
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In a recent interview with USA Today, he shared insights into his current endeavors, revealing that he now works as a stockbroker in Phoenix. He continues to live with his wife Amber, whom he met at the daycare where his children were enrolled.
His older children divide their time between his residence and their mother’s home, located approximately ten miles away.
According to Thomas, he lives a relatively quiet life but once in a while, he does public-speaking jobs and takes on modest acting opportunities.
Looking back on the whirlwind of attention that surrounded him 16 years ago when he graced the front pages, Thomas acknowledged the lasting impact of those significant moments in his life.
à quel métier/rôle j’ai l’air? ?️ What profession or role do I look like?
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Reflecting on the past, Thomas, now in his 50s, remarked: “When my story came out, there wasn’t a single person in the public eye as a transgender man — most people had never heard of it.”
”This was pre-Chaz Bono. This was pre-Caitlyn Jenner. This was before anyone knew anything. It was a first exposure for a lot of people. And then on top of that, they can give birth! I think exposing the importance of fertility for trans people was a huge eye-opener.”
”Everything was a whirlwind,” he said. ”But I still don’t regret it,” Thomas shared.
Grandma’s Final Lesson – The Seeds of Love and Hope
After a painful divorce, I arrived at my shunned grandmother Helen’s home for her 80th birthday, seeking solace. Her wisdom, “Life’s like a garden,” felt oddly prophetic. But my fate changed forever when her simple request led me to unearth a secret Grandma had been hiding.
I never planned on showing up at Grandma Helen’s doorstep feeling like I’d just survived a hurricane. Life had other plans. The kind that leaves you holding divorce papers in one hand and three kids’ hearts in the other.
A cottage nestled in a lush garden | Source: Midjourney
But there I was, watching my children struggle with balloons in the spring breeze while I balanced a lopsided birthday cake I’d managed to bake between their soccer practice and my job interviews.
The house looked smaller than I remembered, its white paint peeling at the edges, shutters hanging slightly crooked.
But the garden was just as it had been in my childhood, bursting with color and life. Roses climbed the trellis by the porch, their pink blooms nodding in the wind like old friends saying hello.
Pink roses growing on a trellis | Source: Midjourney
“Mom, what if she doesn’t want us here?” Tommy, my eldest, voiced what we were all thinking.
His sisters, Emma and Sarah, aged nine and six, pressed closer to me on the narrow porch. Tommy had been doing that lately, speaking the hard truths that the adults in his life seemed afraid to voice. Just like he’d been the one to ask why Daddy wasn’t coming home anymore.
“She’s family,” I said, though the words felt hollow.
A woman standing on a porch holding a cake | Source: Midjourney
The rest of our relatives had written Helen off years ago, claiming she was stubborn, difficult, and maybe even a little crazy since she tended to ramble about her flowers.
It was also well-known that Grandma Helen didn’t have any money. She was 80 years old, and I’m ashamed to say that my family believed there was no need to put up with an older relative they wouldn’t inherit anything from.
A woman frowning | Source: Midjourney
Sarah tugged at my sleeve.
“The balloons are getting tangled,” she whispered, her small fingers struggling with the ribbons.
A gust of wind sent them dancing, and one balloon broke free, floating up into the oak trees that lined the driveway. I watched it disappear, a bright red spot against the blue sky, and wondered if this whole idea was as foolish as that runaway balloon.
The door creaked open before I could second-guess myself further.
A balloon floating away in the sky | Source: Midjourney
There stood my grandmother, her silver hair caught in the sunlight, eyes bright as ever. She wore her favorite gardening apron, covered in dirt smudges and faded flowers, looking nothing like someone who should be celebrating such a milestone birthday.
“Louise?” Her voice wavered. “Oh my goodness, Louise!” She wrapped me in a hug that smelled of lavender and fresh bread, careful not to crush the cake. “And these must be my great-grandchildren!”
The kids, usually shy around strangers, melted at her warmth.
Three siblings standing on a porch | Source: Midjourney
Emma, always the diplomatic one, stepped forward first. “Happy birthday, Great-Grandma. Mom helped us make you a cake.”
“Did she now?” Helen’s eyes crinkled with delight. “Well, isn’t that wonderful! Come in, come in! I just pulled a chicken pot pie from the oven. Divine timing, I’d say.”
Soon, we were all crowded around her kitchen table, the familiar checkered tablecloth bringing back memories of summer visits when I was young.
A woman seated at a table | Source: Pexels
The pot pie tasted just like I remembered, and Helen kept the conversation flowing as naturally as the sweet tea she served.
“Tell me everything,” she said, watching the kids devour second helpings. “Tommy, you’re wearing a Seattle Sounders shirt. Do you play soccer?”
Tommy straightened in his chair. “I made the travel team this year. But…” he glanced at me, “I don’t know if we can afford it now.”
The silence that followed felt heavy, but Helen didn’t miss a beat.
An elderly woman seated at a kitchen table | Source: Midjourney
“You know, your great-grandfather played soccer. Had the fastest feet in his county. I bet you inherited those quick reflexes from him.”
“Really?” Tommy leaned forward, hunger forgotten. “Did he win any championships?”
“Oh, the stories I could tell you!” Helen launched into a tale about my grandfather’s glory days on the field, and I watched my son’s face light up with each detail. She did the same with Emma, discovering her love of art, and Sarah, who shyly admitted she liked to sing.
An elderly woman speaking to her great-grandchildren | Source: Midjourney
Later, I sent the kids outside to play and explore Grandma’s garden while we spoke. We sat down together, and she gave me a look I remembered all too well.
“You’ve got something heavy weighing on your heart, Louise. What’s troubling you?”
Of course, nobody in the family had told her about my husband leaving me. This trip from out of the country with the kids hadn’t included informing Grandma of my current life crisis, but it all poured out of me now.
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“Oh, Louise!” She leaned over and hugged me when I finished speaking. “I’m so sorry to hear about Mark, but the pain will pass. Life is like a garden, you know. Storms may destroy your flowers, but the soil remains fertile. You just have to know when to plant again.”
I looked at her as I dried my tears. Her words, though simple, had shifted something inside me. I felt lighter in that moment, as though the storm she’d mentioned was starting to clear.
As the evening wound down, Helen touched my arm. “Louise, would you do me a favor before you go? My daisies need to be replanted. It won’t take long.”
An elderly woman sitting in an armchair | Source: Midjourney
I was exhausted, but how could I refuse?
The garden looked different in the late afternoon light, shadows stretching across the neat beds where Helen had clearly spent countless hours. Every flower bed was edged with care, and each plant was placed with purpose.
“Just here.” Helen gave me a pot and pointed to a patch of daisies. “They’re a fragile variety and won’t survive the winter if I leave them out in the garden.”
Daisies growing in a garden | Source: Pexels
I set to work as Grandma went back inside to keep an eye on the kids. After a short while, the trowel hit something with a dull clang. My heart jumped, but I kept digging.
My hands trembled as I unearthed a metal box, its surface scratched but intact. Inside, I found my grandfather’s pocket watch, its gold face still gleaming after all these years. My great-grandmother’s pearl necklace lay beside it, along with an envelope.
I dusted my hands off and carefully opened the envelope.
An envelope on a metal strongbox outside | Source: Midjourney
Inside, there was a short note: “My dear, if you’ve found this, it means you truly listened. Use these treasures to build the life you deserve. Love always, Grandma.”
Confused, I brought the box inside and showed it to Helen.
“WHAT IS THIS?” I asked.
She chuckled softly. “Ah, finally! I’ve waited for this moment for five years! Darling, you are the only person from the whole family who fulfilled my little request,” she said.
An elderly woman grinning | Source: Midjourney
She placed her hand over mine and said, “I’m leaving all the money I have, this house and garden to you, my dear. With three kids and a fresh start ahead, you’ll need it more than anyone!”
She leaned forward, her eyes intense. “I’m not poor, Louise. I’ve saved every penny your grandfather and I earned. The house is paid for, and there’s quite a bit more besides.”
My mind reeled. “Grandma, I didn’t come here for—”
“I know exactly why you came.” Her voice was gentle.
A woman sitting in an armchair | Source: Midjourney
“You came because you remembered me on my birthday. You came because you wanted your children to know their great-grandmother. And that’s why you deserve to inherit everything one day. Besides, this garden has plenty of fertile soil left for your fresh start.”
Tears spilled down my cheeks. “I don’t know what to say.”
“Say you’ll stay. Say you’ll let me teach these little ones about gardens and life and starting over.”
I did stay.
An elderly woman sitting in an armchair | Source: Midjourney
We moved in that week, and the next six months were a gift I’ll treasure forever. Helen taught the children how to grow flowers and vegetables while sharing pieces of our family history I’d never known.
She also taught me about investments and the careful planning that had built her nest egg. More importantly, she taught me resilience, about blooming where you’re planted and finding strength in starting over.
When she passed away that spring, it was peaceful. She went to sleep in her favorite chair, a book open on her lap.
An elderly woman reading a book | Source: Midjourney
The house felt empty without her, but her presence lingered in every corner, in every flower that pushed through the soil that spring.
I used part of the inheritance to open a garden center, something I’d never have dreamed possible before. My children flourished in the stability she’d given us.
Sometimes, when I’m alone in the garden Helen loved so much, I think about that metal box and how she patiently waited for someone who would take the time to dig deeper.
A woman walking in a garden | Source: Midjourney
Grandma Helen knew that love, like gardening, requires effort, faith that what you plant will grow, and understanding that the soil remains fertile after every storm.
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