A woman was utterly surprised when her Uber driver offered her an unsolicited tip on how to care for her remarkable skin.
Celebrating her striking beauty, the fashion icon, famously known as the “Queen of the Dark,” responded with laughter, dismissing his remarks with ease.
Read on to discover what the Uber driver said and how she transformed the situation into a learning opportunity!
Having spent her early years in refugee camps in Ethiopia and Kenya, Nyakim Gatwech envisioned America as a “heaven on earth.”
However, upon arriving in Buffalo at the age of 14, Gatwech found herself often alone, crying over the harsh judgments she faced due to her deeply pigmented skin.
Based in Minnesota and originally from South Sudan, the model endured years of bullying for her radiant dark complexion, with comments like, “You don’t take showers. That’s why your skin is dirty,” or, “Smile so we can see you, Nyakim. We can’t see you.”
“In class, for example, the teacher would ask a question and say, ‘Oh, Nyakim, can you answer that?’ A kid would say, ‘Who are you talking to? We can’t see her. She’s not here.’ The whole class would start laughing, and I would just cry,” the now 31-year-old woman shares with Cosmopolitan.
As a young girl desperate to fit in, it was tough when random men would bet on whether she was wearing leggings or if her skin was genuinely that dark.
“At one point, I did consider [bleaching my skin]. When I came to America from a refugee camp in Africa [at age 14], I lived in Buffalo, New York. I would cry myself to sleep after being bullied [about my skin],” she says. “There are so many beautiful dark-skinned Sudanese women who bleach their skin.”
Gatwech revealed that her own sister was among those who bleached their skin. “My own sister did it. But when I told her I wanted to [after living in America for a few months], she told me no. ‘I’m not going to let my daughter do it, or you, nobody.’”
Queen of the Dark
Now hailed as the Queen of the Dark, this woman – who has faced discrimination from designers, makeup artists, and even fellow models – feels empowered by overcoming negativity.
Gatwech’s confidence and profound love for her deep chocolatey skin are supported by her 962,000 loyal Instagram followers.
“My chocolate is elegant. So is what I represent… A nation of warriors,” she writes in one post.
Fans are captivated by her striking beauty.
“Omgggggg I love your skin and melanin,” one fan comments, while another says, “love your beautiful skin tone so much! God makes beautiful creations such as you to remind us of His magnificence!”
Responding to the overwhelming support, Gatwech states, “I grew to learn to love myself… Now, I am not bothered by it [the negativity]. I accept my skin, I love myself, and I’m not insecure about my skin anymore. I don’t think I’m ugly anymore. I have confidence in myself.”
‘Stupidest questions’
A few years ago, Gatwech recounts an encounter with an Uber driver who asked if she’d ever consider bleaching her unique skin.
“He said, ‘Wow, you’re dark,’” Gatwech tells Cosmopolitan about her conversation with the driver. “I just laughed. I wanted to know why he thought I should. He said because life would be easier for me. It would be easier for me to be in a relationship, or guys would be more attracted to me if I was lighter. If I was going to a job interview, I would get the job opportunities because I’m lighter. I just said, ‘[Even if] being lighter would make my life easier, I’d rather take the [hard] road.’”
She adds, “I’m accustomed to people asking the most absurd questions about my skin.”
Gatwech then shared her story on Instagram, accompanied by a stunning photo of herself with three other dark-skinned Sudanese women.
She wrote, “A nation with people so dark you won’t believe your eyes… skin so rich and teeth so bright. Gosh, how I love my country, my people, and everything that comes with it.”
She detailed her encounter with the Uber driver: “[SIC] I was asked by my Uber driver the other day, he said, ‘Don’t take this offensively, but if you were given 10 thousand dollars, would you bleach your skin for that amount?’ I couldn’t even respond; I started laughing so hard. Then he said, ‘So that’s a no?’ and I was like, ‘Hell to the f*cking yeah, that’s a no. Why on earth would I ever bleach this beautiful melanin God blessed me with?’ Then he asked, ‘So you see it as a blessing?’”
Her followers quickly responded with praise and support.
“I guess he didn’t get the memo… black is beautiful,” one fan commented.
“I love you for loving you,” shared another. A third added, “Why would we ever want to mess up something so beautiful?”
When asked by Yahoo Beauty what advice she would give to young black girls facing similar challenges, she said, “You are beautiful, you are unique, and there are people who love you just the way you are. They say the darker the berry, the sweeter the juice. Embrace your darkness!”
Every Day after 21 Year Old Sons Death, Grieving Mom Finds Baby Toys on His Grave
A grieving mother who frequently visits her son’s grave is startled when she begins finding baby toys there and soon uncovers a heartbreaking truth about her son’s hidden life.
“Musician? Are you out of your mind, Leonard?” Kenneth snapped when his son expressed his desire to pursue a career in music.
Leonard, fresh out of high school at 18, was eager to follow his passion. But his parents had different expectations—they wanted him to become a lawyer, a path Leonard had no interest in pursuing.
After taking a gap year to explore his options, Leonard realized his heart was set on music. When he shared his dream with his parents, their response was anything but supportive.
“What’s wrong with wanting to be a musician, Dad?” Leonard protested. “Plenty of people follow their passion and find success. I don’t want a dull office job!”
His father’s reply was firm. “I’ve made myself clear, son. You’re going to become a successful lawyer, just like your grandfather and me.”
“There’s no way, Dad! You can’t force me into a career I don’t want! I’m going to follow my dreams, and that’s final!” Leonard declared.
Leonard’s mother, Lily, tried to mediate. “Your father just wants the best for you. He doesn’t want you chasing an uncertain dream. So many people have big aspirations, but few make it.”
“If he really cares, he should support me!” Leonard retorted.
“Watch your tone, Leonard,” his father warned. “If you want to live here, you’ll listen to us. If not, you’re free to leave.”
“Fine, Dad. I don’t need your support. I’ll make it on my own!” Leonard stormed off to his room, packing his things. That evening, despite Lily’s pleas, he left home vowing never to return.
Three years passed without any contact. Lily tried calling her son, but every call went unanswered. Then, one morning while making breakfast, Lily received a phone call that shattered her world. Leonard had been in a motorcycle accident and died before reaching the hospital.
Lily collapsed in grief, and Kenneth, equally heartbroken, accompanied her to Milwaukee to identify their son’s body. The loss of Leonard drove a wedge deeper between the couple, with Lily blaming Kenneth for pushing their son away.
While Kenneth withdrew into guilt and silence, Lily visited Leonard’s grave daily. One day, she noticed a small teddy bear left at his headstone. At first, she thought it was left by mistake and moved it aside. But when she returned the next day, more toys had appeared.
Puzzled, she asked the cemetery caretaker, but he had no answers. Then, on her next visit, she saw a young woman standing by Leonard’s grave, holding a baby. The woman placed a toy near the grave before turning to leave.
Lily’s curiosity overwhelmed her, and she approached the woman. “Excuse me, do you know my son? Have you been leaving these toys?”
The woman looked startled. “Are you Leonard’s mother? I’m Carrie, his girlfriend. This is Henry, our son.”
Lily was stunned. The child in Carrie’s arms was the spitting image of her late son. Carrie explained how she and Leonard had met after he moved to pursue his music career. They had fallen in love, moved in together, and when Carrie became pregnant, Leonard was overjoyed, even writing a song for his unborn child. Tragically, just as their baby boy was born, Leonard lost his life.
Carrie had been visiting Leonard’s grave and leaving the toys he had bought for their son, unsure of how to approach his parents. She revealed that Leonard had always hoped to reconnect with his family once he found success.
Hearing Carrie’s story, Lily’s heart ached, not just for the son she had lost, but for the family she never knew existed. She couldn’t bear the thought of losing her grandson too, so she invited Carrie and Henry to live with her. Reluctant at first, Carrie eventually agreed.
From that moment, Lily and Kenneth’s lives changed. Kenneth, once so strict, became a doting grandfather to Henry. The joy the little boy brought into their home helped mend the strained relationship between Lily and Kenneth. Together, they supported Carrie in getting Leonard’s song released by a well-known label, and Henry, now five, dreams of following in his father’s musical footsteps, with his grandparents cheering him on.
This story teaches us the devastating effects of anger and impatience. Leonard’s hasty departure and Kenneth’s rigid stance only deepened the divide between them. But it also shows the power of love and acceptance. By opening her heart to Carrie and Henry, Lily not only found healing for herself but also for her family, rebuilding the bond they thought was lost forever.
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