Born in 1956 in Los Angeles, California, Thomas Scott made her acting debut in “Marnie” when she was just 13 years old.
She had a few small film and television appearances throughout the ensuing years, including parts starring Kirk Douglas and Clint Eastwood. She attended the University of Southern California to study piano performance as well.
Thomas Scott’s traumatic childhood past was not well known, despite her success in theater and television, which included multiple Emmy nominations, wins from Soap Opera Digest Awards, and Soap Opera Update Awards.
When she was a baby, her mother left her. Her grandmother took care of her instead of her mother, and regrettably, she did little to stop multiple individuals from abusing young Thomas Scott.
A few decades later, in 2020, Thomas Scott released a memoir titled “Always Young and Restless: My Life On and Off America’s #1 Daytime Drama,” which offered an open window into his life away from the spotlight.
At the age of four, Scott saw her grandmother being abused for the first time. Her grandmother was in the same room as Scott, but she did nothing to stop him from being abused all of Scott’s life.
She pursued a career as a child actor as an escape from the filth, vermin, and lack of protection in her family life. Her passion for acting was stoked when she discovered a sense of normalcy in her profession that she had never experienced before.
Scott moved out of her grandmother’s house when she reached twenty, despite the fact that her health was deteriorating. She realized that trying to convince her grandmother not to have let the abuse would not help; perhaps things would have turned out differently if her grandmother had not been so afraid to see a doctor. Scott overcame these setbacks and continued on despite having a horrible upbringing.
Scott reflected on the agony and adversity she had endured at the hands of her grandmother, a woman who was unable to forgive her for an incomprehensible occurrence. Scott’s grandma asked for forgiveness for years before she passed away, and Scott never made amends with her.
Scott was able to find the good in a difficult situation. She learned endurance, patience, and how to handle hardship as a result of her experience. She was unable to contact her grandma at times, though, because of her unreasonable actions.
Scott faced a difficult road ahead of her as a result; the author needed ten years to write a biography about these upsetting experiences. The project was in danger of being completely destroyed throughout the first few terrifying chapters, which only served to highlight how amazing the project’s completeness was after it was finished.
After shedding her grandmother’s name, Scott was able to go forward. In 1985, she wed Edward James Scott. When they celebrated their 20th wedding anniversary, they took the chance to reiterate their vows on “Entertainment Tonight” in front of their loved ones. The couple’s three adoptive children were named Jennifer, Alexandra, and Elizabeth.
According to Scott, having a child offered her a once-in-a-lifetime chance to make up for some of the wrongs done to her during her childhood. In an intentional effort to provide her girls a better upbringing than she had, Scott decided to assign them to different activities. She had the good fortune to watch them develop into mature, content adults with their own families as a result.
In an effort to help fans understand more about the woman who inspired TV character Nikki Newman, Scott shares her story. She also urges anyone in similar circumstances to seek help before it’s too late, emphasizing that abuse can happen to anyone, regardless of one’s financial standing.
Matt Heath: My parting message: Enjoy things while they are around
A lot of big, tragic and important things have happened to this wonderful country of ours since April 2014. None of which I have covered. I was too busy writing about hungover parenting, ancient philosophy and my dog Colin.
Out of the 536 columns I have written, 27 were about that guy. Far too few. He is such a good boy, he deserves an article a week.
Today is the end of an era for me, and whenever these final events pop up in our lives, we can’t help but think about the ultimate end.
Everything we do, we will one day do for the last time. That’s why you have to enjoy things while they are around. It’s not just big events like leaving a job, house or loved one either. Whatever moment you happen to be in now, you will never get it back, and you don’t know how many more you have.
Everything we do in life, from eating pizza to spending time with the people we love, to driving, writing, drinking or breathing, we will one day experience for the final time. It might happen tomorrow. This can be either a depressing or an inspiring thought, depending on how you look at it.
A few years back in this column, I interviewed professor of philosophy William B Irvine, of Wright State University, Ohio, on this very topic. He put it this way on a Zoom call: “Recognition of the impermanence of everything in life can invest the things we do with a significance and intensity that would otherwise be absent. The only way we can be truly alive is if we make it our business periodically to entertain thoughts of the end.”
Today’s column is very meaningful to me because it is my last. Like the last night with a lover before she goes overseas. And just like a lover, there have been some half-arsed efforts put in from me over the years. Last week, for example, I spent 750 words moaning about how bad my cricket team is. But the truth is that any of my columns could have been the final. If I had reminded myself every week for the past 10 years that the end is inevitable, I may have been more grateful for having a column and appreciated writing them all as much as I am this one.
While everything we do could have more meaning with a focus on finitude, some things are inherently more worthwhile than others. There is no doubt my column “The pros and cons of wearing Speedos” from November 2022 was less meaningful than most things in this world. That was a waste of everyone’s time. So, if we only have so much time, how do we pick the best things to do?
Well, Oliver Burkeman, the author of Four Thousand Weeks – Time Management For Mortals, suggested this to me in a 2022 column: “Ask yourself, does this choice enlarge me? You usually know on some unspoken level if it does. That’s a good way to distinguish between options.”
With that in mind, I don’t feel great about my 2018 article on “New Zealand’s best hole”. That didn’t enlarge anyone.
There will be people reading this column right now who have loved my writing in the Herald and are sad to see it end. Others will have hated it and are glad to see me go. Many won’t have any opinion at all. But for those in the first camp, I have good news. I have a book coming out on May 28 called A Life Less Punishing – 13 Ways To Love The Life You Got (Allen and Unwin Book Publishers). It’s a deep dive into the history, philosophy and science of not wasting our time lost in anger, loneliness, humiliation, stress, fear, boredom and all the other ways we find to not enjoy perfectly good lives. It’s available for pre-order right now (google it if you’re interested).
A Life Less Punishing took me two years to write and is equivalent in words to 100 of these columns. Which would be a complete nightmare for those in the hate camp, but as I say, great news for those who want more.
Anyway, thanks to the Herald for having me, thanks to the lovely people who make an effort to say nice things to me about my column nearly every day and thanks to the universe for every single second we get.
Bless!
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