My story is about how my ex-husband’s girlfriend realized a truth about him that I grew too comfortable with while married to him. With one important question, his new girlfriend taught me a valuable lesson about self-love after reaching out unexpectedly.
I’ve been divorced for five years now, and it’s been an interesting journey navigating life post-marriage. My ex-husband, Ben, 48, and I, 45, were together for 13 years and had two wonderful kids. Even after our split, we’ve managed to stay on good terms.
We co-parent effectively despite our marriage having its ups and downs. Ben and I are best friends and have also maintained a friendship that surprises most people. Our divorce wasn’t messy; we simply wanted different things out of life.
Yesterday was our eldest’s 16th birthday, and we decided to celebrate with a family dinner. Ben has been seeing someone new, a woman named Lisa, for about four months. He told me about her as soon as their relationship got serious.
Transparency was part of our agreement to keep things open and honest for the sake of our children. He asked if he could bring Lisa to the birthday dinner, and while I wasn’t thrilled as I would have preferred to meet her one-on-one first, I didn’t want to cause any drama or be intrusive. So, I agreed.
On that fateful day, I finally got to meet Lisa who was friendly, and eager to make a good impression, which was a relief. I preferred her to be a good person if she was going to be around my children.
She’s got a kind smile and she immediately struck up a conversation with me about the kids’ school and activities. I could tell she was trying hard to fit in, which I appreciated.
As the evening went on, I noticed how attentive Lisa was to Ben. It was sweet but also a little unsettling because I never saw that side of him during our marriage. I chalked it up to new relationship energy and tried to focus on the kids and the celebration.
Halfway through dinner, things got weird when my eldest handed me a birthday card from her father. This caught me off guard because my birthday was months ago. No one usually remembers it, and Ben has never been one to recall such occasions.
Don’t get me wrong, my children’s father is a great man. But he’s really terrible with things like anniversaries, birthdays, or any special occasions. During all the years we were together, Ben never got me a present or card.
It was also my responsibility to handle events like the kids’ birthdays, Christmas, and more. I don’t know if I was wrong for this, but his forgetfulness didn’t bother me. I thanked my daughter, feeling touched by the gesture.
Lisa, sitting across from me, saw my surprise. I had assumed she’d made him get it, but then I noticed how she was giving me these funny looks. Unsure what they meant, I decided to mingle with other guests to avoid the awkwardness.
But, Lisa somehow managed to get my attention. “Ben mentioned he’s not great with birthdays,” she said with a chuckle. “He forgot mine a few weeks ago. Is it intentional?”
I laughed, remembering all the missed anniversaries and forgotten special days. “I have no idea, Lisa, but 13 years of marriage and two kids wasn’t the benchmark because he never really got the hang of it,” I replied. “It’s just who he is.”
Lisa seemed disappointed and tried to hide it, but I thought nothing of it and wandered off to talk to other guests. I decided to shift the conversation to something lighter and talked about family plans and the upcoming holidays. The rest of the evening went smoothly, and we all parted ways with smiles and hugs.
Later that night, as I was getting ready for bed, I received a text from an unknown number. It was my ex’s new girlfriend. “Hi, this is Lisa. I got your number from Ben. I hope it’s okay to text you. I wanted to ask you something.”
Curious, I replied, “Sure, what’s up?”
Her response came quickly and when I read it, I was STUNNED. She hadn’t gotten over our brief conversation earlier and was asking if Ben’s forgetfulness of special occasions was something that could be fixed. “I know this might seem odd because we touched on it earlier, but I need to know…”
“…Does Ben ever improve when it comes to birthdays and anniversaries? I don’t want to make a big deal out of it if it’s something that won’t change.” I stared at my phone, feeling a mix of emotions. Part of me wanted to warn her, to tell her not to ever expect much.
But another part of me debated whether to give Ben a heads-up as it seemed like this was a serious issue for his new girlfriend and that she expected more attention to such things. Yet, a part of me resented having to teach him to be better about something he never tried with me.
I also felt like it wasn’t my place to interfere. After a moment, I typed back, “Honestly, he’s my ex for a reason. I can’t say if he’ll change or not, and I’m not going to have the answers you need.” I continued, “It’s something you’ll have to figure out together. Lovely meeting you, though.”
Months went by without much thought about that night. Then, one evening, Ben called me out of the blue. “Lisa and I broke up,” he said, sounding frustrated.
“What happened?” I asked, genuinely curious.
“She kept making a big deal out of nothing, busy complaining about birthdays and anniversaries. I told her it’s not something I care about, and she just wouldn’t let it go,” he said, sounding furious.
“It turned into this huge argument when I forgot our anniversary, and she left,” he explained, his voice tinged with annoyance.
I sighed, feeling a twinge of guilt as I wondered if I could’ve helped them if I had been more supportive of Lisa when she texted me. “Ben, did she tell you it was important to her?” I asked, feeling like my responses to Lisa played a part in their breakup.
He was silent for a moment. “She told me on many occasions that such things were important to her.”
“But WHO CARES! You never made it a big deal,” he said defensively.
Tired of coddling him, I said, “Well, sir, and that’s why we divorced.”
“That’s mean, Kim,” my ex replied, sounding sad.
“Look, I’m sorry, but I stopped trying because I knew it wouldn’t matter to you,” I replied calmly. “But that doesn’t mean it wasn’t important to me. Or to her. You have to meet people halfway.”
Ben grumbled something under his breath, and I could tell he wasn’t ready to accept that truth. We ended the call on a neutral note, and I sat there, thinking about Lisa. She deserved someone who would appreciate her efforts and reciprocate her feelings.
A few days later, I bumped into Lisa at the grocery store. She looked tired but managed a smile when she saw me. “Hi, how are you?” she asked politely.
“I’m good, thanks. How about you?” I replied, genuinely concerned.
“I’ve been better,” she admitted. “Ben and I broke up.”
“I heard,” I said softly. “I’m sorry it didn’t work out.”
She sighed. “I couldn’t deal with feeling unimportant. I tried to explain it to him, but he didn’t seem to care.”
I nodded, understanding her frustration all too well. “It’s hard when someone doesn’t value what you do. You deserve someone who will.”
Lisa smiled sadly. “Thanks. I appreciate that. I guess I hoped he could change.”
“Change is hard for some people,” I said gently. “But don’t lose hope. You’ll find someone who values you.”
We parted ways, and I felt a strange sense of closure. Lisa’s struggle mirrored my past frustrations, but it also highlighted how much I had grown since my marriage ended. I had learned to accept Ben’s flaws, but I also realized that I deserved more than what he was willing to give.
That evening, I sat down with my children and talked about their dad. I wanted them to understand that while he had his shortcomings, he loved them deeply. We laughed about his forgetfulness and shared stories of the good times we had as a family.
As I reflected on everything, I felt a deep sense of peace. I had moved on from the hurt and disappointment and was ready to embrace whatever the future held. I hoped Lisa would find the happiness she deserved, and I knew that I had done the right thing by not getting too involved in their relationship.
In the end, it wasn’t about birthdays or anniversaries. It was about finding someone who truly valued and appreciated you for who you are. I did not doubt that Lisa would find that person someday, and I knew I was finally content with my own life.
As I looked at my children, I felt grateful for the love and joy they brought into my life. We had our good and bad moments, but we were a family, and that was what mattered most. And as for Ben, I hoped he would eventually learn to value the important things in life.
For now, I was happy. I had my kids, friends, and a sense of peace I hadn’t felt in a long time. And that was more than enough.
If you enjoyed Kim’s story, you’ll love this one about a woman who got pregnant around the same time her son’s girlfriend was also expecting. The son’s girlfriend caused a rift in the family when she made demands of his mother about naming her child.
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Bombshell: Meghan Markle Prepares for Explosive Royal Family Showdown!
When Meghan Markle and Prince Harry left their senior royal roles in 2020 and moved to North America, many fans were not happy. Meghan has shared some tough experiences from her time in the royal family, but there have also been times when fans turned against her. Recently, she was even accused of trying to outshine Kate Middleton.
The conflict with the royal family has been ongoing for years. While Prince Harry has visited the UK a few times since leaving, Meghan hasn’t joined him often. Some say it’s for security reasons, but others think she might not be interested in fixing the relationship with the royals.
A royal expert says Harry misses his old friends and wants a permanent home in the UK. However, he is also very worried about losing Meghan. Some reports say he isn’t interested in reconciling with his family. But there is hope, as Meghan is reportedly open to having a meeting to talk things out.
Despite Harry and Meghan’s complaints about their treatment in the UK, they have aimed for a more private life since moving to the US. However, some argue they are still seeking attention through interviews, a book, a Netflix show, and podcasts. This doesn’t seem like stepping back from the spotlight as expected.
Their desire for more attention hasn’t gone unnoticed. The couple was even mocked on the popular comedy show South Park.
Harry and Meghan haven’t returned to the UK often. They did attend Queen Elizabeth’s funeral together, but when King Charles was diagnosed with cancer and Harry went to see him, Meghan stayed in the US.
The feud between the Sussexes and the royal family has been ongoing for years, with no signs of resolution. However, Harry and Meghan did reach out to Kate Middleton after her surgery and cancer diagnosis, which they reportedly learned about through the news, not directly from family members.
Even though the relationship is tense, one royal expert suggests that Prince William and Kate Middleton are willing to try and mend things with Harry and Meghan.
Speaking with the Mirror, royal author Tom Quinn said that William and Kate were open to inviting Harry, Meghan, and their children to visit England. However, Meghan wasn’t interested and declined the offer.
“There is no way Meghan would bring the children to the UK,” Quinn told the Mirror in early April. “William and Kate suggested that Meghan and Harry bring the children and that the two couples and their families try to make up, but so far, it’s not going anywhere.”
In May, Prince Harry visited the UK again for a special Invictus Games service at St Paul’s Cathedral. He wanted Meghan to join him, and at first, she seemed interested. But soon after, Meghan changed her mind because of concerns for her children’s safety.
A source said that while Meghan had hoped to go to the UK with Harry in May, she didn’t want to bring Archie and Lilibet due to fears for their safety.
“It’s now at the point where Meghan doesn’t want to come to the UK with the children. She just doesn’t feel safe,” the source said. “The question now is whether the family should come with increased security or if Harry should go alone.”
Harry reportedly begged Meghan to reconsider, saying, “I don’t want to do this alone.”
“Harry doesn’t want to keep making solo trips to the UK,” the source continued. “He would prefer if the whole family made regular visits to see his family and rebuild relationships, but there is so much happening behind the scenes that it just isn’t possible right now.”
Harry and Meghan were planning to come to the UK, but when the exact time and date of their appearance were made public, Meghan started to rethink the idea.
The children’s safety isn’t Meghan’s only concern about returning to the UK. The source said that the Duchess doesn’t want to “be thrown back into an anxiety-filled visit to England where she feels like she’s not wanted.”
Time will tell if Meghan will join her husband for the UK trip. But one thing is for sure: A reunion with the royal family seems very far away.
The conflict with the royal family goes back many years. The tension between Meghan and Kate Middleton started just before Meghan’s wedding. In her interview with Oprah, Meghan revealed that Kate made her cry over a dress.
Despite the years that have passed, Meghan has said she doesn’t want to mend the relationship with the royals, believing it’s gone too far.
However, new reports suggest that Meghan has changed her mind and is now “ready to sit down” with the royal family to make peace. But why? One royal commentator said that having a good relationship with her in-laws would “help her sell her jam.”
Speaking to GB News, royal expert Angela Levin said the Duchess is “still genuinely hurt” by how the royal family treated her. However, Meghan is ready to reunite with them to discuss everything.
“She’s still genuinely hurt by how she was treated by the Royal Family – this is four years on,” Levin told GB News. “And she now wants to sit down and talk through things.”
Levin also claimed that Meghan wants the royal family to “make apologies” to her and Prince Harry.
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Angela Levin explained that Meghan wants the Royal Family, including King Charles, to apologize, but they aren’t going to do that. Levin believes that Meghan is the one who should apologize, but she doesn’t want to.
Levin also said that Meghan is trying to get Princess Beatrice and Princess Eugenie to help her sell her jams. Meghan hopes that King Charles might buy some of her products too.
“This information comes from a good source,” Levin said. “Meghan wants to use the excuse of selling her jams as a reason to visit the UK and make things nice, but it’s also a way for her to promote her products.”
Even though Meghan Markle reportedly “never wanted to set foot in Britain ever again,” this new plan might change her relationship with the royals.
The Duchess had reached out to Kate Middleton after Kate’s surgery and cancer diagnosis, which Harry and Meghan found out about from the news instead of directly from the family.
Meghan is focused on her lifestyle brand, American Riviera Orchard, and is selling jam. However, Levin’s idea that making amends with the royals could help her sell more jam might not be well-received by royal fans. Meghan was recently accused of trying to take advantage of Kate’s royal return for her own benefit.
On Saturday, June 15, just hours before Kate Middleton made her royal return during Trooping the Colour, Argentinian polo player Nacho Figuerasa, a close friend of Meghan Markle and Prince Harry, revealed the Duchess’s brand’s new raspberry-flavored jam via an Instagram Story.
The announcement’s timing left many royal fans angry, and they took to social media.
A fourth person concluded, “Who buys jam anyway? It is so easy to make right at home with fresh fruit and a load of sugar!”
Although many were furious with Meghan Markle for this, a source close to the Duchess told the Daily Beast that she had nothing to do with it.
The source claimed, “While I am sure the gift packages came with notes requesting social media coverage, you can’t tell Nacho Figueras what to do. So I think it’s certain the timing of his post was his own idea.”
“The larger point here is that the American Riviera Orchard campaign has been phenomenally successful and cost Meghan nothing.”
The source added, “It is a textbook social media campaign. The only problem is that there still seems to be nothing actually for sale, so what is it all for? I guess we will find out.”
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