This time, we sent an air fryer to our youngest granddaughter, the cheapest thing on her registry. Eloise called us, livid, accusing us of being cheap. I remember picking up her call and she didn’t even say hi, she just started ranting, “Seriously, Grandma? I just got your gift. An air fryer? That’s the cheapest thing you could find on my registry!”
I was taken aback because as much as the air fryer was the cheapest on their registry, I still thought it’d be useful to them, so I told her that. Eloise kept on complaining, “Useful? Come on, you know you can do better than that. Everyone knows you have the money. I just can’t believe you’d be this cheap with me. It’s embarrassing.”
In this heated moment, I told her, “Yes, you’re right. We are cheap, old, and useless. The only thing you DIDN’T know is that the day before the wedding, we were going to gift you a check for $40,000.”
I revealed this in an attempt to explain to Eloise about the cash gift we usually give our grandkids before the wedding but she was so angry at this point, that she wasn’t listening to a thing I said. I speculated that maybe she didn’t believe we would gift her such an amount of money after only buying her an air fryer.
Eventually, she said, “No, it’s clear. You just don’t love me enough to show it. You know how much pressure I’m under with the wedding. And then, this? It’s like you don’t even care,” then she hung up.
Despite my husband and I’s shock at Eloise’s reaction, we then bought her a China set, hoping to appease her, but decided against giving her the $40,000, feeling she hadn’t earned it.
Fast forward to last week. Eloise talked to her brother and found out that we were telling her the truth about the money. After confirming it with her cousins, she, called again, accusing us of discrimination, “I just found out that it’s true you gave the money to everyone else when they got married. Why didn’t I get anything?”
We stood firm, explaining our stance was due to her initial reaction, “We felt after your reaction to the wedding gift, it wasn’t right to go ahead and gift you the money.” Eloise pleaded trying to convince us otherwise, “So, you’re punishing me? Is that it? Because I was upset about an air fryer?”
I was angry that she didn’t even understand what she did wrong. “It wasn’t about the air fryer, Eloise. It was how you spoke to us, the disrespect. That’s not something we expected or can support,” I explained.
Eloise implored us, nearly in tears, “But that’s so unfair! I was stressed, Grandma. Planning a wedding is hard, and I just snapped. I didn’t mean any of it.” I felt like she should have only apologized to us instead of finding excuses to justify her behavior.
However, I told her, “We understand that it’s a stressful time, but actions and words have consequences. We hoped you’d understand the value of family and love over material things.” Full of desperation, Eloise added, “But you don’t understand! Can’t we just forget all this happened? I need that money, Grandma.”
She pleaded, threatened to boycott Christmas, and accused us of cutting her off but we didn’t budge. In the end, I expressed, “We love you very much. This has nothing to do with cutting you off. We just hope you’ll reflect on this and understand why we made our decision.”
Now, Eloise has followed up on her threat and she’s boycotting Christmas. Her mother, who is our daughter-in-law, is siding with her, calling us unreasonable. However, we feel that after all we have done for Eloise, the air fryer gift, shouldn’t have triggered this reaction.
For context, we had already paid for her college, and her parents covered her graduate school and half the wedding. Additionally, she and her husband are financially comfortable and do not desperately need our money.
We’re also not upset with our grandkids for revealing the cash gift since she is among the group of family members who are allowed to know about it. Our reason for sending the air fryer earlier was that we live far away, so we always send our gifts early.
The wedding gift is also separate from the money, which we give with the hope it will be used for something significant, like a home. Now, we feel like the action we took towards Eloise was well deserved and we are not going back on our decisions even if she and her mom threaten to do their worst.
Despite the tumultuous events and Eloise’s refusal to understand our perspective, my husband and I stand by our decision. Love and respect in our family are paramount, and we hoped this situation would be a learning experience for her.
The holidays might be quieter this year with her family’s absence, but our hope is for healing and understanding in the future. Our door and hearts remain open to Eloise, whenever she’s ready to mend fences.
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People raise over $370k for 90-year-old Air Force veteran who was seen pawning jewelry to care for wife with dementia
Now, this is a story that will make you smile. The kindness of strangers was on full display as thousands of people gave to an Air Force veteran who was having trouble taking care of his ill wife.
Presently, the web can be an extremely irritating spot. It is filled with nonsense, false information, and possibly the worst hot takes one could have ever imagined.
In any case, from time to time the web is utilized to hoist and help individuals battling, and honestly, it truly is wonderful.
We are feeling a squeeze on our wallets these days yet one individual who has truly run into some bad luck was a 90-year-old Flying corps veteran, Donald. ( He’s not the presidential candidate, not at all; he’s not quite 90 yet).
Donald ended up catching a TikToker, Jenelle Marie, who aided feature his story for her devotees and individuals concluded to do what they could to help.
They ran into each other when Marie saw Donald in a Gold and Pawn shop in Manchester, New Hampshire.
The veteran shared that he was selling his jewelry to pay his rent and take care of his ill wife, who had just been diagnosed with dementia. To add considerably more pressure to this, their landowner has chosen to raise the lease and Donald dreaded he and his significant other could be removed.
In a video presented on her page, Marie gave Donald an envelope loaded up with $1,300 from commitments between herself, her life partner, and 25 other kind outsiders who contributed.
The flying corps vet was overpowered with appreciation and promised to reimburse the blessing with a supper, when he could manage the cost of it.
However, things only improve from here on out.
Marie then started a GoFundMe campaign for him, which has received over 13,000 contributions.
Even though the goal was only $350,000, more than $370,000 has been raised for Donald as of now.
So what is the cash in any event, for? Well Marie, remarked that this cash would simply go towards aiding the vet on his monetary burdens, as well as assist him with viewing as another home.
On the mission page she remarked: ” I’m trying to find him a new place to rent that doesn’t break the bank, but I was hoping I could raise some money to ease his financial burden. Any sum would help and any assets for a one room first floor condo or house to lease would be greatly valued in the Manchester region.”
In an update, on August 9, the TikToker expressed gratitude toward every one of those gave and said she and her life partner would be plunking down with Donald and a lawyer to get all the cash in a protected record that he can get to.
Thus, everything seems to lead to a happy conclusion.
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