This time, we sent an air fryer to our youngest granddaughter, the cheapest thing on her registry. Eloise called us, livid, accusing us of being cheap. I remember picking up her call and she didn’t even say hi, she just started ranting, “Seriously, Grandma? I just got your gift. An air fryer? That’s the cheapest thing you could find on my registry!”
I was taken aback because as much as the air fryer was the cheapest on their registry, I still thought it’d be useful to them, so I told her that. Eloise kept on complaining, “Useful? Come on, you know you can do better than that. Everyone knows you have the money. I just can’t believe you’d be this cheap with me. It’s embarrassing.”
In this heated moment, I told her, “Yes, you’re right. We are cheap, old, and useless. The only thing you DIDN’T know is that the day before the wedding, we were going to gift you a check for $40,000.”
I revealed this in an attempt to explain to Eloise about the cash gift we usually give our grandkids before the wedding but she was so angry at this point, that she wasn’t listening to a thing I said. I speculated that maybe she didn’t believe we would gift her such an amount of money after only buying her an air fryer.
Eventually, she said, “No, it’s clear. You just don’t love me enough to show it. You know how much pressure I’m under with the wedding. And then, this? It’s like you don’t even care,” then she hung up.
Despite my husband and I’s shock at Eloise’s reaction, we then bought her a China set, hoping to appease her, but decided against giving her the $40,000, feeling she hadn’t earned it.
Fast forward to last week. Eloise talked to her brother and found out that we were telling her the truth about the money. After confirming it with her cousins, she, called again, accusing us of discrimination, “I just found out that it’s true you gave the money to everyone else when they got married. Why didn’t I get anything?”
We stood firm, explaining our stance was due to her initial reaction, “We felt after your reaction to the wedding gift, it wasn’t right to go ahead and gift you the money.” Eloise pleaded trying to convince us otherwise, “So, you’re punishing me? Is that it? Because I was upset about an air fryer?”
I was angry that she didn’t even understand what she did wrong. “It wasn’t about the air fryer, Eloise. It was how you spoke to us, the disrespect. That’s not something we expected or can support,” I explained.
Eloise implored us, nearly in tears, “But that’s so unfair! I was stressed, Grandma. Planning a wedding is hard, and I just snapped. I didn’t mean any of it.” I felt like she should have only apologized to us instead of finding excuses to justify her behavior.
However, I told her, “We understand that it’s a stressful time, but actions and words have consequences. We hoped you’d understand the value of family and love over material things.” Full of desperation, Eloise added, “But you don’t understand! Can’t we just forget all this happened? I need that money, Grandma.”
She pleaded, threatened to boycott Christmas, and accused us of cutting her off but we didn’t budge. In the end, I expressed, “We love you very much. This has nothing to do with cutting you off. We just hope you’ll reflect on this and understand why we made our decision.”
Now, Eloise has followed up on her threat and she’s boycotting Christmas. Her mother, who is our daughter-in-law, is siding with her, calling us unreasonable. However, we feel that after all we have done for Eloise, the air fryer gift, shouldn’t have triggered this reaction.
For context, we had already paid for her college, and her parents covered her graduate school and half the wedding. Additionally, she and her husband are financially comfortable and do not desperately need our money.
We’re also not upset with our grandkids for revealing the cash gift since she is among the group of family members who are allowed to know about it. Our reason for sending the air fryer earlier was that we live far away, so we always send our gifts early.
The wedding gift is also separate from the money, which we give with the hope it will be used for something significant, like a home. Now, we feel like the action we took towards Eloise was well deserved and we are not going back on our decisions even if she and her mom threaten to do their worst.
Despite the tumultuous events and Eloise’s refusal to understand our perspective, my husband and I stand by our decision. Love and respect in our family are paramount, and we hoped this situation would be a learning experience for her.
The holidays might be quieter this year with her family’s absence, but our hope is for healing and understanding in the future. Our door and hearts remain open to Eloise, whenever she’s ready to mend fences.
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Mocked for Loving a 252 lb Woman, This Man’s Response is Absolutely Savage
When we share our lives online, we often face criticism. This young couple, who love sharing pictures of each other, received negative comments about their relationship.
However, their response to the criticism is smart and reminds us how important it is to stand by our beliefs.
The story of Matt and Brittany Montgomery is a familiar but beautiful one. The couple met, fell in love, and began their life together.
While this may seem like a typical situation, the couple’s story has a unique twist: their size difference. Brittany has struggled to find acceptance throughout her life. She didn’t have a secure relationship with her parents, who were often controlling, and their interactions left her feeling drained.
These experiences led her to have low confidence in herself and her body. As a plus-sized woman, Brittany often found herself attracting two types of men: those who wanted her to lose weight or those who fetishized her curves. These negative experiences made her want to stop dating altogether and shut herself off from the chance of finding love.
While they fully accept each other, they’ve experienced judgment from the outside world. Matt mentioned, “People comment on Instagram and suggest that I’m not big enough or man enough for her.” He also said, “I notice people staring at us when we walk down the street…”
Despite the criticism they face from those who don’t understand their strong bond, the couple shares nothing but love for one another.
Matt has had bad experiences with conventionally sized women in the past. However, Brittany makes him feel different and has helped him realize that she is his true soulmate. He accepts her as she is and focuses on making her happy. He isn’t shy about publicly expressing his love for her. In a post dedicated to Brittany, he wrote, “You are worthy, you are deserving of infinite love every single day and more. The way I look at you and feel for you, and the way you look and feel for me, is how I know that we are meant to be.”
His message shows that despite the rude comments they receive on their pictures, he loves his wife, and their connection goes far beyond the physical. What a strong response to the haters!
The couple aims to break the stigma surrounding “mixed-weight” relationships. Brittany expressed, “I wish mixed-weight relationships were more common and accepted as the norm.”
The young couple welcomed their child, Lakelyn, in March 2022, and just last month, they announced they are expecting their second child in September 2023. We wish them all the best!
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