Jake and Mary Jacobs marked their 70th anniversary of a happy marriage last year, but their journey wasn’t simple.
Mary, who is White, and Jake, who is Black, lived in the same city in 1940s Britain. At that time, there weren’t many Black men there.
Even though Mary’s father told her to leave, Mary chose love over easy choices.
“When I told my father I was going to marry Jake, he said, ‘If you marry that man, you will never set foot in this house again.’”
Mary and Jake first met at a technical college where Mary was learning typing and shorthand, and Jake was undergoing Air Force training. They met during the war when Jake moved from Trinidad to Britain.
Jake impressed Mary with his understanding of Shakespeare, and they got to know each other. One day, they invited Mary and her friend to join them for a picnic. Unfortunately, someone passing by saw them and reported Mary to her father. The woman was shocked to see two English girls talking with black guys. After this incident, Mary wasn’t allowed to visit her father again.
After Jake returned to Trinidad, they kept in touch through letters. A few years later, he came back to the U.K. to find a better-paying job.
Jake surprised Mary by proposing, and she, at 19, said yes. However, when she told her family, they kicked her out.
“I left with only one small suitcase. No family came to our registry office wedding in 1948.”
Mary’s father was upset about her marrying a black man, and Mary didn’t realize that society felt the same way.
The early years of their marriage in Birmingham were tough. Mary cried every day, hardly ate, and they faced many challenges. Nobody would talk to them, they couldn’t find a place to live because nobody would rent to a black man, and they had little money.
Even walking down the street together was hard because people would point at them, Mary explained.
Mary and Jake were excited to become parents, but at eight months, Mary gave birth to a stillborn child. She mentioned it wasn’t due to the stress she was under, but it deeply saddened them, and they didn’t have any more children.
As time passed, their lives improved. Mary became a teacher and eventually an assistant principal, while Jake found a job with the Post Office. They made new friends, but Mary felt the need to explain to people that her husband was black before introducing them.
“My father passed away when I was 30, and even though we reconciled by then, he never approved of Jake,” she shared.
Currently, Jake, 89, and Mary, 84, live in Solihull, a town south of Birmingham. They recently celebrated 70 years of marriage.
Jake said he has no regrets, but he also mentioned that today’s black youth may not fully understand the challenges he faced in 1940s Britain.
“When I arrived in the U.K., I faced abuse every day. Once, on a bus, a man rubbed his hands on my neck and said, ‘I wanted to see if the dirt would come off.’ Back then, working in an office as a black man with white girls wasn’t considered safe,” Jake explained.
Despite all the challenges, bias, and abuse, the pair is still deeply in love and has no regrets about being married. They have been happily married for more than 70 years.
These two are a true inspiration, and I wish them a lifetime of pleasure because of the love they have for one another.
Woman tries to take her seat on a plane – but she refuses, and what happens next has the internet is divided
Not everyone finds flying to be a pleasurable experience. Some make care to take precautions for their comfort before they leave on their journey. However, not everyone pays attention to the same item.
This woman traveled with knowledge of her needs and fulfilled them. Others, nevertheless, did not share that perspective.
Both physically and symbolically, a woman found herself in a very unpleasant situation. She struggled to put her comfort before what society expected of her. She had to decide whether to be giving or assertive about her personal space.
In order to spend Christmas with her family, she was traveling across the nation. She was aware that she needed to feel comfortable when flying. She always reserves an additional seat on a flight because of her stature. She always pays more to make sure she’s comfortable.
She breezed through security and boarding, and everything about the check-in happened without a hitch. The terrible encounter started just when she settled into her seat. Sitting next to her was a mom and her eighteen-month-old child. When she noticed that one seat was empty, she asked the woman to quickly make room for her toddler by squeezing herself onto one seat. She declined, though, since the original occupant had paid for both seats.
A flight attendant saw that the encounter was getting attention and stopped by to find out more. The flight attendant was asked if she could accommodate the youngster after the scenario was described to her. The woman respectfully rejected and reiterated that she had paid for both seats in full.
Thankfully, the flight attendant understood and told the mother to place her child on her lap, as is customary for most youngsters of that age. However, the mother made care to give the woman unpleasant stares and passive-aggressive comments during the trip.
The woman subsequently questioned whether she had been unjust in their exchange and ought to have granted her extra seat. She asked the Reddit community if she had made a mistake.
“I’ve taken 9-hour flights with an infant in my arms and shorter flights with a toddler in my lap, who was capable of sitting in his own seat and very much did not want me to hold him,” wrote one response, a woman who had experienced a similar circumstance. Was it a disaster? Indeed. However, that was just my issue, and I decided to hold my child as long as he was under 24 months old and I wasn’t required to pay for his seat. Not every parent is this entitled, I promise!
“She’s wrong for not buying a seat for her son and assuming someone else would give up a seat they paid for,” said an additional commenter. It’s likely that she took use of the lap thing as a loophole and hoped there would be spare seats available on the aircraft to avoid paying.
Another enraged Redditor said, “I’d go so far as making a complaint to the airline about their employee supporting another passenger harassing you.”
“You should always do what you can to be as healthy as you can, but being fat isn’t a character flaw or a moral failing,” remarked another irate user. Even if you aren’t currently reaching your goals, you shouldn’t be ashamed of your body or yourself because everyone has their own struggles in life. The mother ought to have bought an additional seat if she wanted one for her children. She has no right to the seat you bought, and you shouldn’t feel sorry for her inappropriate actions.
However, others could also be able to understand the mother’s desire for a comfortable flight. If that had been crucial to her, though, she would have made sure to secure her child’s seat first.
In this exchange, who do you believe is in the right? Tell us in the comments below! Talk about this with others so they can add their thoughts as well.
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