While performing in Denver, Van Ark met actress Julie Harris while interviewing her for a local newspaper, and the actress persuaded her to study acting and drama at the Yale Drama School.
As a result, Van Ark became the youngest student ever to receive a scholarship to the well-respected school and the second woman ever to enroll. The first woman was Julie Harris, who helped Van Ark into the school.
“She wrote to the dean and asked him to meet me. Long story short, my parents drove me to New Haven, Connecticut, to meet the dean, who gave me a scholarship,” she recalled.” It was meant to be.”
Valene Ewing on ‘Dallas’ and ‘Knots Landing’
Van Ark began her professional career at the Minneapolis Guthrie Theater, where she starred in The Miser by Moliere. After working about a year at the Arena Stage in Washington DC, she moved down to work with the national touring company Barefoot in the Park in 1963, which led to her Broadway debut. In 1971, she was nominated for the Tony Award for Best Featured Actress in a Play after starring in The School for Wives.
At that point, Joan Van Ark had begun working in front of a screen rather than on stage. She appeared on television series including Temperature’s Rising, Spider-Woman, and Days of Our Lives and even in one episode of Bonanza.
Even though Joan Van Ark wasn’t short of jobs, she was still looking for her significant breakthrough role as the 1980s approached. In 1978, she made several appearances as Valene Ewing on Dallas – which led her to the role of a lifetime.
Knots Landing – a spinoff of Dallas – premiered in 1979, and Joan Van Ark reprised her role as Valene Ewing. She starred in 327 episodes – acting alongside Michele Lee as Karen and Ted Schakleford as Gary – and became a massive star.
Even though it was a spinoff of Dallas – about the rotten but wealthy Ewing Clan – it was initially brought to CBS years before.
However, the network wanted a “big rich family” show, and Dallas got picked as the one. But later on, Knots Landing became a massive success as the studio realized how big of a show Dallas had grown into, and after only one season, it rose into the top 20 in TV ratings.
How Joan Van Ark almost missed out on her biggest role
Knots Landing became the story of Gary Ewing and his wife Valene – played by Van Ark – and how they decided to start a new life in Knots Landing.
However, Van Ark almost missed out on the part of Valene Ewing. She explained that she had a “three-way clash” where she did The Love Boat simultaneously, as well as a commercial in New York.
In the end, it was her husband – John Marshall, who we will come back to in a minute – that persuaded her into choosing Dallas. And it was a significant – and important – decision.
“I got the call asking me to do a guest appearance in this show called Dallas, which was attracting a lot of buzz, but I said to my husband, ‘John, why should I even read this script? I can’t be in three places at once,’” she told Express. “Then he read it and said, ‘No, you’ve got to do it. It looks wonderful.’”
“So basically, he talked me into a schedule that had me in LA one day, then flying to Dallas for two days, followed by two days in New York and then back to Texas. But looking at this old cast photo from Knots Landing – the spinoff from Dallas – I’m so glad I listened to him,” she added.
Dallas and Knots Landing became a 15-year commitment for Van Ark, who became identified by her role. As earlier mentioned, she and Julie Harris had quite a history – and in 1980, they met again
“I could stay forever on the show and be safe”
Harris was cast in Knots Landing as the mother of Van Arks’ character, and for the actress, it was almost too good to be true.
“When the producers told me they had finally last someone to play my mother, I held my breath,” she recalled in a 1984 interview with Florida Today.
“I thought, ‘Oh my God, are they going to say Phyllis Diller or Zsa Zsa Gabor, or who?’ Then they said it was Julie Harris, and I went right through the roof. I couldn’t believe they had picked her to be my mother. They didn’t even know we were friends.”
Joan Van Ark stayed for 13 seasons and 327 episodes on the show. Then in 1993, just one season after she left, Knots Landing was canceled. But the reason for Joan leaving wasn’t that she didn’t like it. Instead, it was all about her trying on new challenges.“I could stay forever on the show and be safe,” Van Ark told the Los Angeles Times in 1992.
“But three years ago, I did Night of the Iguana in Williamstown (Mass.), and I had a quote from Tennessee Williams taped on my mirror, taken from an essay he’d written on success. It said, and I’m paraphrasing here: ‘Security is in the shape of a kidney-shaped pool in Los Angeles, where you sit waiting for your residual checks.’ I was in a comfortable spot on Knots, and an artist should not be comfortable.”
At the same time, the television series became a huge part of Van Ark’s life. So even though she felt comfortable leaving, it was a tough blow since she thought it would be easier.
Blamed herself for ‘Knots Landing’ cancelation
“I have loved more than life the 13 years I’ve had on that show,” she said. “[Knots Landing creator] David Jacobs is a great influence on my life, has taught me so much about so many things. Ted [Shackelford] is the other half of every breath I take on the show, and personally, he’s a large part of my heart. The people are my family–we have shared marriages, deaths, divorces. It’s far more difficult to leave than I thought.”
The show didn’t quite work without the great chemistry between characters Valen and Gary. In fact, Joan took the blame for the show being shut down.
“Well, it was my fault. I jumped over to NBC to do a pilot which did not sell,” she said. “I was so ready to go, after fourteen years with the one lady, so I auditioned for the pilot, and they cast me. It wasn’t as cleanly negotiated as it should have been. When the pilot didn’t sell, they asked me back, and I did do the four-hour finale of the show.”
Joan Van Ark left the soap opera business behind but continued to star in many television series. She had minor parts in television series, including Fresh Prince of Bel-Air, and starred in some television movies. Between 2004 and 2005, Joan appeared as Gloria Fisher in 55 episodes of the hugely successful television drama The Young and The Restless.Joan Van Ark – marriage, husband, children
It’s common for celebrities in Hollywood to marry other celebrities, and show-biz marriages don’t always last very long.
But that wasn’t the case for Joan Van Ark, who met the love of her life back in high school. She met her husband, John Marshall, while the two were students in Boulder. In 1966, the couple married on a military base in Germany.
“Believe me, it was nothing like the marriages [Valene Ewing] has gone through,” she told UPI.
In 1969, they welcomed daughter Vanessa Marshall, who also chose a career in entertainment. She became a well-known voice-over artist and actually gave up on her on-camera acting career. Instead, Vanessa Marshall has lent her voice to animated films, television series, and several video games.
John Marshall went on to become an Emmy newsman, working on KNBC-TV and NBC. He’s had a flourishing career just as his wife Joan, and while the couple was working hard to make it in their respective fields, Vanessa was growing up.
For Van Ark, becoming a mother while trying to navigate through the business was tough. And she gives credit to her husband, John, for keeping the family together during those stressful years.
“He is the reason we have the most wonderful daughter in the world and that the marriage has stayed strong,” Van Ark told The Leader-Post in 1988. “I feel I am the committed person who can’t give up time for this or that.”
“He did not want to miss watching Venessa grow up, and he did not want to miss me,” she added. “He knows correspondents live out of suitcases. John made career choices I didn’t agree with because if it had been me, I would have packed my bags, and I would have been waiving at the airport.”Joan Van Ark – net worth
Besides her acting job, Joan Van Ark has a great interest in running. The 78-year-old has completed several marathons and explained she’s running instead of going to a psychologist. However, when it comes to her husband, she stated that she would never go on a run with him.
Why? Because “it’s the quickest way to a divorce that I know of. You’re always criticizing the other’s style,” Joan said.
In the last decade, Joan Van Ark has continued to work on stage in several productions for theater and starring in television series and movies such as Watercolor Postcards and Psycho Wedding Crasher. But she will always be most remembered for her magnificent spell on Dallas and Knots Landing.
According to Celebrity Net Worth, Joan Van Ark has a net worth of around $10 million.
My Stepdaughter Gifted Me a Car for My 55th Birthday – When I Opened the Glove Compartment, I Went Pale
A car from my stepdaughter Emily was the last thing I expected on my 55th birthday, especially considering our history. She handed me the keys, and I thought that was it. But then she mentioned another gift hidden in the glove compartment. What I found there changed our relationship forever.
I’ve always said that being a stepmom is like walking a tightrope. You’re trying to balance between being a parent and not overstepping. Between loving unconditionally and respecting boundaries.
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For me, that tightrope has been my life for the past ten years with my stepdaughter, Emily.
I met her father, David, at my workplace. I was new there and he helped me with a lot of things. We instantly became friends.
Now that I look back at it, I feel like fate had given me my new job so I could meet David. We had so many things in common, and it took us only about a few months to start dating.
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David told me everything about his life. He had lost his wife about a year before we met, and his life revolved around his little girl, Emily. He loved her to pieces.
As our relationship grew stronger, I couldn’t help but wonder about our future.
One evening, as we sat on his porch swing after dinner, I decided to broach the subject.
“David,” I said, my heart racing, “where do you see this going? Us, I mean.”
He turned to me. “Monica, I love you. I want to spend my life with you. But…”
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“But what?” I prompted gently.
“I want to marry you, but I’m worried about Emily. I don’t know how she’d react to having a stepmom.”
I reached out and took his hand. “David, it’s going to be fine. My meetings with Emily have always gone well. She’s a sweet girl.”
“You’re right,” he said as he smiled. “Emily does seem to like you. She always asks when you’re coming over next.”
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“See?” I squeezed his hand. “We’ll take it one step at a time. Emily and I will find our way.”
“You’re right. We’ll make this work. Together.”
When I married David, I knew I was stepping into a complicated situation. Emily was just 12, still raw from losing her mom two years earlier. I knew it would be difficult for her to accept me as her stepmother, but I thought things would get better.
I was wrong.
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I remember the first time I met her. I remember how her big brown eyes looked up at me with concern.
“Hi Emily,” I said, trying to keep my voice steady. “I’m Monica. It’s nice to meet you.”
“Hi,” she mumbled, before quickly excusing herself to her room.
That moment set the tone for our relationship. I tried my best to be there for her, but Emily always seemed to keep me at arm’s length.
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It wasn’t that she was mean or disrespectful. No, it was more subtle than that. She was polite but distant, like a guest in her own home.
I remember her 13th birthday. I’d spent hours decorating the house and baking her favorite chocolate cake. When Emily came home from school, her eyes widened at the sight.
“Wow,” she’d said, a small smile playing on her lips. “This looks great. Thanks, Monica.”
It was a nice moment, but there was still that invisible barrier.
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She didn’t hug me or show much excitement. It was like she was holding back, afraid to let herself get too close.
Despite the challenges, David and I had a good relationship. He was patient and always encouraged me to keep trying with Emily.
We were happy. So happy. But then, five years ago, my world turned upside down.
David was killed in a car accident, leaving Emily and me alone.
I still remember that awful day.
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I was sitting in the living room with Emily, and both of us were shocked.
“What do we do now?” Emily asked in a trembling voice.
I reached out and took her hand.
“We stick together,” I said. “We’re a family and we’ll get through this together, okay?”
She nodded and squeezed my hand tightly. It was the closest we’d ever been, united in our grief.
After David’s death, it was just Emily and me. We were the only family for each other.
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I never wanted to replace her mom. I just wanted to be someone she could rely on.
But no matter how many birthdays or milestones we celebrated together, I couldn’t shake the feeling that she merely tolerated me. It was like there was an invisible barrier between us that I couldn’t break through.
As Emily grew up, she became more independent and spent a lot of time away from home. She eventually got a great job in marketing and was doing well for herself.
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I was proud of her accomplishments but also worried about the emotional distance that seemed to have grown even wider between us.
I’d always imagined we’d have a loving relationship, but instead, our interactions felt transactional.
There were times when Emily would barely acknowledge my existence at family gatherings, and her silence felt like a constant reminder that I was an outsider in her life.
Last Thanksgiving made me realize she didn’t value my presence at all.
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My sister and her family had come over, and Emily had arrived late. She just gave a quick hello before immersing herself in conversation with her cousins.
My sister pulled me aside when she noticed this.
“Everything okay with you and Emily?” she asked.
“Oh, you know how kids are,” I forced a smile. “She’s just busy with work and her own life.”
But inside, my heart was breaking.
I wanted so badly to be close to her, to have the kind of relationship where we could talk about anything and everything.
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Fast forward to last week, just before my 55th birthday.
Emily called me and said she wanted to take me out for a special birthday dinner. I was touched. Usually, she only sent me a card and flowers, but this felt different.
I wondered if this was finally a sign that she was starting to see me as more than just her dad’s second wife.
She picked me up in a sleek red convertible.
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At first, I thought she was just picking me up in a rental, but then she stepped out, handed me the keys, and said, “Happy birthday. This is for you.”
Her voice was flat, almost mechanical. It seemed like she was fulfilling an obligation rather than giving a genuine gift.
I tried to muster a smile and said, “Thank you, Emily. This is so generous of you.”
Then, we went for dinner.
I thought it would be an opportunity for us to bond, but our conversation felt forced and awkward.
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At that point, I couldn’t shake the feeling that the car was a way for Emily to buy her way out of guilt or some sense of duty she felt toward me.
Was this her way of finally cutting ties? Was this a goodbye gift?
On the drive home, I was consumed by these thoughts. My heart ached at the possibility that Emily had only ever seen me as a temporary figure in her life.
As we parked in the driveway, Emily mentioned there was something in the glove compartment for me.
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“It’s a part of your gift,” she said.
My hands trembled as I opened it and found a small stack of papers inside.
As I pulled them out, my heart skipped a beat. They were drawings — childhood drawings that Emily had made years ago. I went pale.
The drawings were simple and sweet, depicting our little family. I recognized myself in them, always drawn with a big smile. The stick-figure version of me was labeled “Mom.”
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Each drawing showed us together, doing mundane things like baking or gardening, and they all had the same caption: “Mom and Me.”
Tears welled up in my eyes as the realization hit me.
All those years, I thought I was just a stepmom, someone Emily tolerated. But these drawings were proof that she saw me as her mom. That she loved me all along.
“Emily, these drawings… I don’t know what to say.”
“I’ve always loved you, Mom,” she said.
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“I just didn’t know how to say it. It felt like I was betraying my birth mom if I called you ‘Mom,’ too. But you’ve been there for me through everything, and I want you to know that I see you as my mom. I always have.”
I was speechless. The tears came then, and we hugged each other tightly, both of us crying and laughing at the same time. All the years of uncertainty, all the walls between us, seemed to crumble in an instant.
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We spent the rest of the evening talking about everything. Her fears, my doubts, and all the moments we had shared that meant more to each of us than the other realized.
It was like a weight had been lifted, and for the first time, I truly felt like Emily’s mom.
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