According to a survey, only 14% of couples sleep in separate beds every night. And while many of us might believe in the saying “couples who sleep apart grow apart” there are studies that show the opposite is actually true.
We at Bright Side believe that there are no wrong or right sleep arrangements, because to some, sleeping in different beds can be as pleasing as for others sharing a bed with their partner.
A poor night’s sleep can turn lovers into fighters.
According to research, sharing a bed with a partner that has restless sleep behavior can deprive you of 49 minutes of sleep each night. And, when one partner doesn’t get a proper night’s sleep because of the other, it will most likely result in a conflict between them the next day.
Actually, the study even confirmed that couples who tend to have a poor night’s sleep have more severe and more frequent fights than those who wake up well-rested. People who get a good night’s sleep, on the other hand, are more likely to be in a good mood, have lower stress levels, and be more patient.
Resenting your partner because you can’t get a good night’s sleep can be destructive to the relationship.
Snoring, fidgeting, and bed or blanket hogging are just a few of many reasons why some couples choose to sleep in different beds or even in different bedrooms. Lying awake listening to your partner snoring while you beat yourself up to fall asleep can lead to a build-up of anger, tension, and resentment toward your partner.
According to Jennifer Adams, author of Sleeping Apart Not Falling Apart, sleeping in a separate bedroom can even help a relationship thrive because both partners are not sleep deprived.
Each partner can tailor their sleeping conditions to their heart’s content.
Tina Cooper, a licensed social worker, sleeps in different bedrooms with her partner because of their opposite sleeping habits. “I’m a night owl, he’s an early bird. I need soothing sounds to fall asleep, and he likes silence. He likes a hard mattress, and I like soft and full of pillows. And because I don’t like the early day’s sunlight, my boyfriend gave me the master bedroom which gets less light and he has the second largest room that gets the sunrise he loves.”
How you spend the nighttime in your shared bedroom with your partner can also influence your daytime functioning, marital satisfaction, and psychological and physical health. And when 2 people with different bedtime preferences and nighttime schedules end up together, changing themselves just to please their partner’s needs might harm their relationship in the long run.
Sleeping in different bedrooms with your partner means that the 2 of you will have a place just for yourselves where you can relax after an exhausting day. This way, both of you can satisfy your needs without tiptoeing around and worrying about whether your partner might wake up because you want to watch the latest episode of your show before bed.
Even if you don’t remember waking up, disturbed sleep can have a negative impact on your overall health.
During the night, our brain cycles through the stages of sleep several times: light sleep, deep sleep, and REM (Rapid eye movement sleep). But when you interrupt the cycle by waking up during the night, it means that your brain spends more time in the light sleep stage and misses out on REM. And without sufficient REM your emotional well-being and cognitive performance suffer.
Interrupted sleep can also have short and long-term health consequences, like hypertension, weight-related issues, mental health problems, reduced quality of life, and other health-related issues.
People on Reddit share why they decided to sleep separately with their partner.
- “Because a good night’s sleep is more romantic than sharing a bed. I snore and toss and turn. He gives off literal village levels of heat in his sleep and I can’t stand the heat. I read, he can’t stand light. We keep different hours to an extent. A million reasons. We get along so much better this way.” — crankyweasels
- “My partner and I have completely separate bedrooms. We ’sleepover’ occasionally in each other’s rooms. However, we both sleep exponentially better apart. He’s a night owl and I’m an early bird. He wants only one sheet on him, I want 10 lbs of blankets. In addition, having a separate room allows me to decorate it however I want, have my own personal space, and keep it to the level of cleanliness I prefer. People look at us sideways when I mention the separate rooms thing, but it’s been a game-changer.” — eriasana
- “Different sleep cycles due to different work schedules. We are still madly in love and we both agreed to this because it’s the best for both of us.” — AFishInATank
- “Early in our relationship, 90% of our fights occurred in the bedroom. I like to sleep in a cold room with the fan on and white noise like a box fan. I also like to go to sleep with the TV on. She likes to sleep in a warm, still, cave in complete silence and darkness. We started sleeping in separate rooms and all of a sudden 90% of our fights stopped. Also, because we were getting real sleep, other fights turned more into heated discussions.” — ttc8420
What are your sleeping arrangements with your partner? Do you believe sleeping in different beds can help a relationship thrive?
Legendary Actress Loni Anderson: Forever Beautiful at 78
A Star That Lives On Beyond Time
Loni rose to stardom in the late 1970s when she played the sexy and intelligent Jennifer. She won three Grammys for the program, which followed the highs and lows of a made-up Ohio radio station.
According to Loni, “I think women liked that I embodied both sexiness and intelligence.” “There weren’t many women in comedy in 1978 who could pull off the two seamlessly.”
Early Mistakes and Unwavering Willpower
Loni found it difficult to get beyond the obstacles in her way when she first became famous. The first girl in the school had to endure stares and remarks, so it wasn’t always easy to wear a bra. However, Loni demonstrated that nothing could stand in her way.
She never turned back after making her acting debut in 1966. She continued to solidify her reputation as a legendary actress by making cameos in a number of TV series and motion pictures. Her appearance in a bikini poster, which was crucial to her landing the Jennifer role on WKRP, is one of her most memorable moments.
Loni grinned and said, “I posed for that poster because my grandchildren would see it one day.” And I’ll be happy to inform them that’s just how I came across. You received exactly what you saw.
Overcoming Personal Challenges
Loni’s personal life wasn’t always glamorous, even though she was well-known on television. She experienced highs and lows in her four marriages, the most well-known being to actor Burt Reynolds. After six years of marriage, their dramatic and widely publicized divorce was tainted by derogatory comments and accusations. But in the end, Loni showed incredible strength by admitting the difficulties she had. She was honest about the allegations of physical abuse and unpaid child support.
When Burt passed away in 2018, Loni paid her respects, which says volumes about her personality. She knew how he affected her life and their son Quinton’s. This reveals her ability to be forgiving and kind.
Increasing in Years But Not in Grace
Loni Anderson, who is 78 years old, exudes beauty. She credits maintaining a healthy lifestyle with frequent exercise and a balanced diet for her youthful appearance. She strives to redefine the boundaries of age and confronts the notion of what a grandma should look like with unyielding tenacity.
Loni said, “I never thought I wanted to be the traditional, sensible-shoe-wearing, rocking-chair-wearing grandma.” “We need to shift people’s perceptions of what grandmothers can be because they don’t fit that stereotype!”
A Life Overflowing with Inspiration and Love
Not only does Loni have a positive attitude on life, but she also surrounds herself with the proper people. In 2008, she tied the knot with guitarist Bob Flick, her true love. These days, they are content grandparents raising a lovely family. It’s always a pleasure to be with Loni Anderson, who never fails to uplift us with her optimistic outlook on life despite hardships like learning that her daughter has multiple sclerosis. She tells us that real beauty comes from the inside out and that age is just a number.
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